Coldplay: Oracles tagged as team oracle

244 oracle items tagged as team oracle

May 17, 2013 - submitted by Duncan, Australia

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #120
My mum is looking to have surgery on her shoulder, and wonders what she can do for 6-8 weeks with only one arm. Do you have any suggestions for an activity she can do?

May 17, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

May 10, 2013 - submitted by Solaf, Egypt

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #119
I am kind of confused about my schooling and I was hoping you'd help. I'm currently in 8th grade and my biggest ambition is to become a Rockstar. My dad has offered to get me into a musical academy next year but then I'd have to quit school, while my mum says I could do both. So which decision should I make? Should I do my learning while also studying singing or should I just go to the musical academy and give it my all? Thank you so much, dear Oracle.

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May 10, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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May 3, 2013 - submitted by Aura, Mexico

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #118
If you had to dedicate a song to Coldplay, what would it be and why?

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May 3, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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April 26, 2013 - submitted by Mini, Belgium

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #117
I'm a bit confused right now. I'm 18 years old and studying at university which means I've got to learn and work a lot. Sometimes too much. Sometimes I'm so so so fed up with it and then I start thinking... It feels a bit like I'm spoiling my youth. I'm young and free right now, but I don't have the time to enjoy it. I always got to sit on a chair and learn and learn even more. Then I think, maybe I should just stop with it or study something easier. But then it would feel like I'm destroying my future, and one day - when I will be too old for uni - I'll regret for being too lazy.
At the same time I'm having another dilemma. Studying hard now makes the chance that I won't have exams in the summer bigger, but this means little free time now (while I should be enjoying my "student-time") and (hopefully) three months vacation in the summer. Having fun now with the risk of having exams in the summer. I have no clue what to do!
Oh, I don't even know if I'm making any sense at all, but it would be nice if you - wise Oracle - could help me out of this.

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April 26, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
As you hopefully know, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
This week I have chosen something fun as light relief.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 2nd May.

If you had to dedicate a song to Coldplay, what would it be and why? Aura, Mexico.

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April 19, 2013 - submitted by Claudia, Puerto Rico

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #116
I feel so confused. What is the real reason we are here earth? I thought it was for us to be happy, but what happens to us afterwards? Where do we go? I wish I knew. My lover, my baby, my one and only, passed away last month in a car accident. He was only 20 years, and so full of life. The most amazing person I've ever known. Where did he go? Is he ok? Will I see him someday?
Sorry for all the questions.
Thank you Coldplay for teaching me lessons and helping me understand myself.
I just hope I get to see him again.
Manolo my love - you belong to me, not swallowed in the sea.

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April 19, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 25th April.

I'm a bit confused right now. I'm 18 years old and studying at university which means I've got to learn and work a lot. Sometimes too much. Sometimes I'm so so so fed up with it and then I start thinking... It feels a bit like I'm spoiling my youth. I'm young and free right now, but I don't have the time to enjoy it. I always got to sit on a chair and learn and learn even more. Then I think, maybe I should just stop with it or study something easier. But then it would feel like I'm destroying my future, and one day - when I will be too old for uni - I'll regret for being too lazy.
At the same time I'm having another dilemma. Studying hard now makes the chance that I won't have exams in the summer bigger, but this means little free time now (while I should be enjoying my "student-time") and (hopefully) three months vacation in the summer. Having fun now with the risk of having exams in the summer. I have no clue what to do!
Oh, I don't even know if I'm making any sense at all, but it would be nice if you - wise Oracle - could help me out of this. Mini, Belgium.

Look forward to seeing your replies.
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April 12, 2013 - submitted by Valentina, Argentina

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #115
I have a little problem. You know that mixing friendship with love it's always a mess. And of course, I got into one of those. But it's not the typical story of best friends who fall in love. We are friends, best friends actually, and I love him. How couldn't I? Is the best friend I ever have. And then it is this part, this physical attraction between us, which is unbearable. We can't help it, we always end up kissing each other. But it doesn't exist a romantic part, not for me at least. I don't want to be his girlfriend, because I'm happy with our relationship just like it is.
But he is different, he is starting to get jealous every time he sees me with another boy and I am not willing to be controlled. Lets say I'm a free spirit. I have no jealousy or envy in my heart, for me he can do whatever he want with whoever he desires. But I don't wanna hurt his feelings.
I said to him the kissing part it's over, that we can't continue if he is jealous, because our friendship it's going to go always in the first place. I did the right thing? It doesn't feel that way, I miss him.
Please tell me if I am crazy, if it is worth it to give up to my freedom just for him.
You have to understand I'm a bit scared, I have awful experiences in the past.
Anyway, thanks for listen. Love.

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April 12, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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April 5, 2013 - submitted by Analisa, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #114
I am a 21 year-old woman who has been in a committed relationship for 3 years. About 6 months ago, I met another person who I now think I am completely in love with. We just get along in ways that make me feel more complete and more in love and I think about him every day. However, I still have the person I am with. I have never cheated, and I would never plan to. I also have never hinted to this new person in my life that I have feelings for him. He has met my current boyfriend a few times and they both got along just fine. I'm not sure what I should do. If I'm dissatisfied in the relationship I'm in should I just end it and start a new one? Or am I just infatuated and I don't really know what I want? I just don't want to ruin the relationship I have with both of them and I don't want to hurt the person I am currently with because he has done nothing more than love me.

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April 5, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 11th April.

I have a little problem. You know that mixing friendship with love it's always a mess. And of course, I got into one of those. But it's not the typical story of best friends who fall in love. We are friends, best friends actually, and I love him. How couldn't I? Is the best friend I ever have. And then it is this part, this physical attraction between us, which is unbearable. We can't help it, we always end up kissing each other. But it doesn't exist a romantic part, not for me al least. I don't want to be his girlfriend, because I'm happy with our relationship just like it is.
But he is different, he is starting to get jealous every time he sees me with another boy and I am not willing to be controlled. Lets say I'm a free spirit. I have no jealousy or envy in mi heart, for me he can do whatever he want with whoever he desires. But I don't wanna hurt his feelings.
I said to him the kissing part it's over, that we can't continue if he is jealous, because our friendship it's going to go always in the first place. I did the right thing? It doesn't feel that way, I miss him.
Please tell me if I am crazy, if it is worth it to give up to my freedom just for him.
You have to understand I'm a bit scared, I have awful experiences in the past.
Anyway, thanks for listen. Love.
Valentina, Argentina.

Look forward to seeing your replies.
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March 29, 2013 - submitted by Vieve, Philippines

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #113
Hey Oracle! I just want to ask: what can be done if you're always bugged by your mind with the query: "Where is really my rightful place in this world?" It's like it's the question that always get into me because of the drastic turn out of events (e.g. One day, I'm with my friends, next day I feel very alienated) I really don't know what to do.

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March 29, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 4th April.

I am a 21 year-old woman who has been in a committed relationship for 3 years. About 6 months ago, I met another person who I now think I am completely in love with. We just get along in ways that make me feel more complete and more in love and I think about him every day. However, I still have the person I am with. I have never cheated, and I would never plan to. I also have never hinted to this new person in my life that I have feelings for him. He has met my current boyfriend a few times and they both got along just fine. I'm not sure what I should do. If I'm dissatisfied in the relationship I'm in should I just end it and start a new one? Or am I just infatuated and I don't really know what I want? I just don't want to ruin the relationship I have with both of them and I don't want to hurt the person I am currently with because he has done nothing more than love me. Please help. Analisa, USA.

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March 22, 2013 - submitted by Matthew, New Zealand

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #112
Had a big argument with my friend about views on gay marriage and not sure if we will be able to get on from now. Only feel comfortable talking to the almighty Oracle. How do we move on?

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March 22, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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March 15, 2013 - submitted by India, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #111
I am young (not too young though) but I am in love. I have known this person for years and have been with them for nearly two now. I would do anything for this person. I love everything about them, from their hair to the way they write to the way they love me. Their imperfections are perfect to me, and despite the tribulations we sometimes face, I always come out feeling even more grateful they are at my side, always there for me.
I'm just 16-does this mean I'm too young to be in love? I feel like I am but all adults know say I have no idea what this means. Please help.
India, USA.

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March 15, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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March 8, 2013 - submitted by Asmaa, France

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #110
I'm a girl who is very shy. My teacher told me that I must do a monologue.
Please help and thank you.
Viva la vida !

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March 8, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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March 1, 2013 - submitted by Jayden, Australia

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #109
I'm an ordinary 15 year old boy turning 16 this year. Everything in life seems to be going wrong and I don't know what to do about it - I feel like there is so much pressure on me in just everyday living. I have never had a girlfriend, or even kissed a girl, when almost everyone my age has. It mustn't seem like much, but its hard being the odd one out. I don't know who to call my friends anymore. Ever since starting high school, most of the people I used to call my 'best friends' have completely changed for the worst. They have turned into the people they swore they never would and I don't know who to be friends with. My family have changed too. My parents seem to be constantly fighting now. Over just about anything. It seems like they cannot go a day without fighting about something. Morning and night, it never stops. I feel like they want to split, but don't want to put me and my siblings through that. I also recently found out that my sister, the happiest care free sister on the planet (or so I though) self harms. This came as a huge shock to me. So much that it brought me to tears. I don't know if I should tell somebody or not. She is the sort of person who doesn't like talking about emotions. So I'm scared that if I tell somebody, it could make the situation a lot worse than it already is. I really don't want to make things any worse.
I need advice on how to cope with all these changes, please help.

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March 1, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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February 22, 2013 - submitted by Christine, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #108
Lately I've realized that my best friend hasn't really been the same. After a breakup with her boyfriend a few months ago, her behavior has changed. She used to always be in a cheerful mood but now she doesn't seem to care about anyone or anything. She almost seems like she's angry most of the time when I'm around her. Another thing is that she's almost completely stopped eating. I rarely see her eat anything anymore and she is skinny enough as it is. Today she told me that she had lost nearly fifteen pounds in just a few months, making her weight drop almost to the double digits. It's been scaring the living hell out of me. I want to do something but I don't know what and I'm worried about how she would react if I told her that I thought she hadn't been herself for these past few months. I'm just very upset and worried about her right now and I don't know what to do. Can you please help me?

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February 22, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 28th February.

I'm an ordinary 15 year old boy turning 16 this year. Everything in life seems to be going wrong and I don't know what to do about it- I feel like there is so much pressure on me in just everyday living. I have never had a girlfriend, or even kissed a girl, when almost everyone my age has. It mustn't seem like much, but its hard being the odd one out. I don't know who to call my friends anymore. Ever since starting high school, most of the people I used to call my 'best friends' have completely changed for the worst. They have turned into the people they swore they never would and I don't know who to be friends with. My family have changed too. My parents seem to be constantly fighting now. Over just about anything. It seems like they cannot go a day without fighting about something. Morning and night, it never stops. I feel like they want to split, but don't want to put me and my siblings through that. I also recently found out that my sister, the happiest care free sister on the planet (or so I though) self harms. This came as a huge shock to me. So much that it brought me to tears. I don't know if I should tell somebody or not. She is the sort of person who doesn't like talking about emotions. So I'm scared that if I tell somebody, it could make the situation a lot worse than it already is. I really don't want to make things any worse.
I need advice on how to cope with all these changes, please help. Jayden, Australia.

Look forward to seeing your replies.
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February 15, 2013 - submitted by Mindy, Australia

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #107
My friendship group is tearing apart. A complete split. Right through the middle. I don't know how to handle this at all. What did you do when you lost really good friends? Did you try and split your time, did you let some of them go? I don't want to lose them.

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February 15, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 21st February.

Lately I've realized that my best friend hasn't really been the same. After a breakup with her boyfriend a few months ago, her behavior has changed. She used to always be in a cheerful mood but now she doesn't seem to care about anyone or anything. She almost seems like she's angry most of the time when I'm around her. Another thing is that she's almost completely stopped eating. I rarely see her eat anything anymore and she is skinny enough as it is. Today she told me that she had lost nearly fifteen pounds in just a few months, making her weight drop almost to the double digits. It's been scaring the living hell out of me. I want to do something but I don't know what and I'm worried about how she would react if I told her that I thought she hadn't been herself for these past few months. I'm just very upset and worried about her right now and I don't know what to do. Can you please help me? Christine. USA.

Look forward to seeing your replies.
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February 8, 2013 - submitted by Kate, United Kingdom

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #106
Friends, to a relationship, back to friends, can it work?

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February 8, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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February 1, 2013 - submitted by Bri, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #105
My boyfriend just recently told me that him and some of his guy friends spent the weekend drinking and smoking. I was so disappointed in him - he's underage and I thought he was above those sort of things. And when I got mad, he had to remind me that "most of the other guys aren't even gonna tell their girlfriends" as if him telling me the truth makes it better. He also told me that he's been stressed and it was the one thing that took it away. I'm so upset, angry, and worried. What do I do?

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February 1, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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January 25, 2013 - submitted by Elise,

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #104
I'm young and have been dating the same guy for almost two years (which is a long time when you're young as you know). We've been so close but lately I've been thinking about things, things that for so long I have overlooked - his obscene and inappropriate jokes, his moodiness, his anger which he directs towards me. I've always been a comfort to him, as he has to me (he can be very sweet and romantic) but I'm tired of his inability to be a true gentleman through and through. I know you should stick with someone and accept them as a whole, but he can be more of a jerk than the sweet guy I once knew, and I don't ever want to settle for someone who's only good for me half the time. How could I have overlooked this for so long? And how can I change things? Can things be fixed?

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January 25, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle,

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January 18, 2013 - submitted by Dani, United Kingdom

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #103
I'm finding the dating scene difficult. I joined an online dating site and have been on a few dates and I don't know what the etiquette is. If I don't like a guy, I don't know how to leave it when saying goodbye. That said, when I DO like a guy I don't know what to say either in case they don't feel the same! I met someone and we had a brilliant time but I haven't heard from him at all since. I sent one text and he didn't reply. I think that's rude but then... maybe he is also not knowing how to politely say he doesn't want to see me again. Help?!

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January 18, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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January 11, 2013 - submitted by Helena, Sweden

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #102
I have recently split up with my boyfriend. I thought he loved me and I think/thought I loved him too. We had made so many plans together for our lives and we said that we would always be there for each other, no matter what would happen to us. That meant a lot to me and I will never forget it. It made a mark in to my heart. I am still in that place every time I think about him. But I am now like nothing to him. I do not know what happened, or really why or when and where. All I know is that one day, all of a sudden, he decided that he didn't love me anymore. I was shocked.

He has also stopped all contact with me so I didn't even get the chance to talk to him about what happened. I am air to him.
This, was all so all of a sudden for me, and I am still in that place when he love me. And I him.
How will I get my heart unbroken and my spirit and soul back together again?
I am an 21 year old artist/model and he is a 24 year old musician. Love, Helena, Sweden.

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January 11, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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January 4, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
Welcome to the first Team Oracle question of 2013.
As you (hopefully) know, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 10th January.

I have recently split up with my boyfriend. I thought he loved me and I think/thought I loved him too. We had made so many plans together for our lives and we said that we would always be there for each other, no matter what would happen to us. That meant a lot to me and I will never forget it. It made a mark in to my heart. I am still in that place every time I think about him. But I am now like nothing to him. I do not know what happened, or really why or when and where. All I know is that one day, all of a sudden, he decided that he didn't love me anymore. I was shocked.

He has also stopped all contact with me so I didn't even get the chance to talk to him about what happened. I am air to him.
This, was all so all of a sudden for me, and I am still in that place when he love me. And I him.
How will I get my heart unbroken and my spirit and soul back together again?
I am an 21 year old artist/model and he is a 24 year old musician. Love, Helena, Sweden.

Look forward to seeing your replies.
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December 21, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #101
What was your favourite music show of the year? It can be musical theatre, a show, a concert, a gig, on tv, on DVD, live etc�
And what was so magical about it?

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December 21, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
Team Oracle will return on Friday 4th January 2013.

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December 14, 2012 - submitted by Alice, Denmark

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #100
Okay, I know this may not seem as that big a problem, but it is to me! I live in a house with my parents and my older brother. My brother plays guitar. And when he plays I always get in a really bad mood. There is just something about it that makes me wanna trap him by the throat. It's not that it is heavy rock or anything, but lets face it - guitar alone without a band just does not sound that good. The biggest problem is that every time he plays I listen to loud music to drown it out. I can, however, not concentrate with music like that, and this means I can never do my homework when he plays, which is often. I have tried to talk to him about it, but he won't turn down the volume or anything. I took me several years just to make him stop playing while I was sleeping (which he still does quite often because he "forgets"). I myself play the piano, but at least I have the courtesy to play quietly. I don't know what to do, but I know I have to do something, when it is affecting my education and my good mood. Isn't there something I can do?

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December 14, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
As is tradition for the last Team Oracle of the year, we ask a frivolous question to lighten the mood.
As always, ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 20th December.

What was your favourite music show of the year? It can be musical theatre, a show, a concert, a gig, on tv, DVD, live etc.
And what was so magical about it?

Look forward to seeing your replies.
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December 7, 2012 - submitted by Paul, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #99
I have been recently out of a relationship. Truth be told, for a time it was amazing beyond the cosmos. You hear stories of how two people meet and fall in love that sounds like it was ripped right out the movies. But truth be told, it was quite simply a love that will and cannot be ever be replicated. It was the perfect conditions for a perfect love. Somewhere in that ether, the relationship could not withstand all the changes that surmounted that culminated in these two people being put in a very unfamiliar place. Simply put, we were taken out of what we knew and moved to mars. It was a once in a lifetime love. I doubt it will ever happen again. But if she sees this, I want her to know that I'll always be around and bond is strong. I wanted let these thoughts permeate into the universe. My question is, "Can lighting strike twice?"

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December 7, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 13th December.

Okay, I know this may not seem as that big a problem, but it is to me! I live in a house with my parents and my older brother. My brother plays guitar. And when he plays I always get in a really bad mood. There is just something about it that makes me wanna trap him by the throat. It's not that it is heavy rock or anything, but lets face it - guitar alone without a band just does not sound that good. The biggest problem is that every time he plays I listen to loud music to drown it out. I can, however, not concentrate with music like that, and this means I can never do my homework when he plays, which is often. I have tried to talk to him about it, but he won't turn down the volume or anything. I took me several years just to make him stop playing while I was sleeping (which he still does quite often because he "forgets"). I myself play the piano, but at least I have the curtisy to play quietly. I don't know what to do, but I know I have to do something, when it is affecting my education and my good mood. Isn't there something I can do? Alice, Denmark.

Look forward to seeing your replies.
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November 30, 2012 - submitted by Clara, United States of America

Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #98
Sometimes we reach that point where we lose it. Where we don't know what to do. I think I have reached that point. I don't know how to explain it, I just feel so lost. I look at myself in the mirror and feel so unfulfilled and unhappy. I know how fortunate I am for the things I have but I never feel that feeling of happiness. Everyday I remind myself that I'll be out of this town, free, happy, and independent. But how can I be happy now?

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November 30, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 6th December.

I have been recently out of a relationship. Truth be told, for a time it was amazing beyond the cosmos. You hear stories of how two people meet and fall in love that sounds like it was ripped right out the movies. But truth be told, it was quite simply a love that will and cannot be ever be replicated. It was the perfect conditions for a perfect love. Somewhere in that ether, the relationship could not withstand all the changes that surmounted that culminated in these two people being put in a very unfamiliar place. Simply put, we were taken out of what we knew and moved to mars. It was a once in a lifetime love. I doubt it will ever happen again. But if she sees this, I want her to know that I'll always be around and bond is strong. I wanted let these thoughts permeate into the universe. My question is, "Can lighting strike twice?"
Paul, USA.

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November 23, 2012 - submitted by Francy, Italy

Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #97
I have been together with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years now, and I'm in a strange situation. I no longer know what feelings I have for him. This has never happened to me before but, I always try to find times to stay away from him, and when I don't see him for a few days, I don't miss him.
If I do miss him I feel like it might be out of boredom. Now, my boyfriend has terrible anxiety issues and panic attacks, which make him unable to leave the house alone, however he is finally (after 1 year) starting to get better. I am scared that my leaving him will just worsen his situation and he will once more have a nervous break down.
I no longer know what the right thing to do is; wait for him to get better or just leave him and not worry about the consequences of my actions?

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November 23, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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November 16, 2012 - submitted by Aaron, United States of America

Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #96
I was wondering what is your favorite word in relation to Coldplay? Rather, what word or words come to mind when you hear the word "Coldplay"?
Could I kindly ask you to write a poem about Coldplay using these words? Or if you chose a single word, how about using it as a title for the poem?
I want to see your writing skills.

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November 16, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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November 9, 2012 - submitted by Charlie, United Kingdom

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #95
I am not a normal kid (apparently to my friends) I like music they don't. It's not my fault I know how to play the majority of band related instruments. I like music based on rock not pop or the music my friends like. e.g: Justin Bieber.
The nearest I get to present day music is Coldplay and Nirvana (even though they are not a band anymore, but the Foo Fighters will do for that).
I like music before this new kind of musical era, like Pink Floyd and Jimi Hendrix and also Jimmy Page (none of my friends know who he is when I mentioned I wanted to be a sessionist).
So I am asking how do I get my friends to not call me peculiar?

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November 9, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
Normally this section answers questions of a personal nature, but this week is something different.
I thought it'd be fun & interesting to let people have a go at expressing themselves in another way.
Next Friday I'll post a selection, alongside my own.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please read the following question.
Poems must be no longer than 150 words.
Please email your creations to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 15th November.

I was wondering what is your favorite word in relation to Coldplay? Rather, what word or words come to mind when you hear the word "Coldplay"?
Could I kindly ask you to write a poem about Coldplay using these words? Or if you chose a single word, how about using it as a title for the poem?
I want to see your writing skills.Aaron. USA.

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November 2, 2012 - submitted by Anon, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #94
I've been married to someone for many years. Because of his job keeping him away from home a large percent of the time, we pretty much have been living as single people. We are no longer compatible when together even though nothing is really wrong. People think if you're married you should live together. Isn't it possible to have a soulmate yet live apart?

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November 2, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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October 26, 2012 - submitted by Bella, United Kingdom

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #93
There is a boy in my class who tells me through email that he is in love with me. We are both 9th graders. I do not know how to respond to this. I don't feel that I like him back in this way and I certainly do not want to hurt his feelings either! How do I handle this?! Please help.

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October 26, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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October 19, 2012 - submitted by Laura, Netherlands

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #92
Did someone ever break your heart? And how did you get over it?
After a relationship of almost 3 years, my exboyfriend ended it a couple weeks ago. Most of the time I can live in peace with his decision and I know my life doesn't end now, but sometimes it's hard to be alone because I miss him so much. I'd just like to hear some experiences and maybe some advice from other people.

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October 19, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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October 12, 2012 - submitted by Darryl, Canada

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #91
I have a friend that is living a big distance away from me and she is lonely. She just moved to a new city and the friends that she does have their are all busy with Uni. I would like to do something like a treasure hunt or something that will hopefully help to make her feel a little bit less lonely but I am rather rubbish at thinking these kind of things up and was hoping that you might have some advice.
Thanks heaps.

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October 12, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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October 5, 2012 - submitted by Keith, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #90
I'm currently 16 and there is a girl I've liked on and off since I was about 14. We had both liked each other for a while but she drifted away. She's now had a boyfriend for almost 10 months. Recently she came to me and told me that I should play guitar and she should sing at a school event. I was very open to it but then she said that she and her boyfriend are both going to sing it. The lyrics are about being deeply in love with each other.
If I accompany them for an event that would potentially bring them closer together am I betraying my own feelings? This is really tough for me to explain and I hope I'm getting my point across. I just want advice on if it's worth doing this for my friend and crush and possibly bring her and her boyfriend to a whole new level, or should I back out and hope one day I'll have my chance with her. I'm so conflicted with this I don't even know if I'm making sense. Please give me some advice just to get my own thoughts straight so I can decide.
Thank you.

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October 5, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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September 28, 2012 - submitted by Grace, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #89
I've got a problem. I have an amazing boyfriend whom I love to the ends of the Earth, but he was this awful habit of pushing his bitterness upon me. He is easily angered, and blames it upon huge fact that he "has no life". He'll often become angry at me for things beyond my control, and when I try to soothe him it only makes him more angry. It drives me crazy with worry, anger, and sadness. I want him to be happy but I forgive him again and again and he apologizes again and again but he just doesn't change. How can I help him become happy and fulfilled without him pulling me down as well?

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September 28, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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September 21, 2012 - submitted by Rita, Lebanon

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #88
I was bored the other day, so I went back and read some old emails I had sent about 2 years ago, read old forum posts I'd written, listened to some music I liked back then... and I realized that 17 year old me and 19 year old me are 2 different people. I changed so much; I barely recognized myself in those songs. I need to ask if this keeps happening as you get older? Because it's absolutely terrifying. I don't want to look back in a couple of years and hate or be embarrassed by myself. Do people keep changing so much or is it to a lesser extent?
Rita.

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September 21, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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September 14, 2012 - submitted by Sofia, Portugal

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #87
I really have a problem. I had a boyfriend and we broke up but he still have feelings for me. And honestly our past it's not the best. We used to have huge fights and really complicated moments. Sometimes I really felt wrong.
And because of it my friends think it's more healthy for me if we never get back together. I used to suffer a lot but we also had great moments.
We had been together for almost 4 years and it's hard for me not having someone by my side for anything and because of it I think I miss him but I don't know if that's love.
Should I move on and change my life and became independent and strong and find someone really good to me or should I go back to him? What should I do to this confused heart ?
Thanks for answering from the bottom of my heart.
Sofia.

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September 14, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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September 7, 2012 - submitted by Josje, Belgium

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #86
I have never had a boyfriend yet. I think I'd like to have a boyfriend, but I've never met a boy that I actually love. (Yes, I do have had crushes but only on famous singers or actors, but never on a real boy...) I'm scared that I will never find a boy to love, maybe I'm just too choosy or maybe THE boy doesn't exist for me. Also I'm already 17 years old, so probably I won't be the first girlfriend for my first boyfriend. That scares me too. I've never kissed, I don't even talk a lot with boys.
I don't really know what I expect as answer on this, because it's not really a question. Also it feels weird to tell this here on the internet while I have never told anyone in real life about it. But please help me (team) Oracle.

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September 7, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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August 24, 2012 - submitted by Nathalie, India

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #85
I need to learn to manage my money and I'm wondering if there is some sort of rule to go by so that I'm not going from paycheck to paycheck. I'm in college and it isn't wise to live like I were still at home. Do you have any recommendations?

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August 24, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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August 17, 2012 - submitted by Tim, Canada

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #84
My girlfriend is in love with Coldplay and their music and her first CD ever was their X&Y album. I want to do something extra special for her with that album being the focal point. The only problem is that I am not the most creative guy and don't have the greatest of ideas. So I was wondering if you would have any suggestions to help me out. Thank you.

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August 17, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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August 10, 2012 - submitted by Farah, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #83
I do need some answers that I haven't been able to figure out yet. I wish I could find out my place in this world. Take the guys for instance, they've been playing on for years and they probably have known what they wanted to do for so long right? They do it so well... what do you do Oracle when you just don't know what to do with your life? But I mean really don't know. I'm not some teenager who hasn't given much thought about it, and I'm not even in my 20s anymore. Tried several things and I'm clueless. Totally clueless. But I do wish I had that something. Like anyone really who has truly found happiness in finding their place. Any ideas?
Thanks for your time. Farah.

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August 10, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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August 6, 2012 - submitted by Betty, United Kingdom

Q. How do I ask team oracle a question? I am really confused and would like to ask them about something..
Thanks.

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August 3, 2012 - submitted by Skyler, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #82
What is the best advice you were ever told?
About life, love, relationships, anything and everything.

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August 3, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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July 27, 2012 - submitted by Paul, United Kingdom

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #81
I'm in a really tight situation, and I could really do with your advice.
I'm been in a relationship with my girlfriend for just over 7 months now, and things have been going really well. There's always been one problem though - she's never told her parents about me, and has stated she never plans to. Now, I don't know why, but I find this difficult to cope with, because not only is it unfair on them, but we have to keep our relationship secret, and she can't see me as much as she wants to, so it's unfair on me too. We've argued over it a lot and she's threatened to dump me over this. What do I do? I've been told her parents are really nice people, so I don't see why that should be a problem, but she says she just can't, and offered no valid reason why she can't tell them. Please help, I'm desperate.
Thank you for listening.

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July 27, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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July 20, 2012 - submitted by Vanna, United Kingdom

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #80

My dad was in a really bad car accident and injured his brain, he was in a coma for a month and slowly came out. Now doing just amazing but I can't help to notice he's not really acting like himself.
My dad is my best friend in the whole world, he's been with me through everything: my mom leaving me to go do drugs, (they weren't together, I was a mistake, stay away from gin kids) our house catching on fire, both my step mom and him didn't have a job, me going to some shelter for a month then to live with my cousins who were mean to me then moving up to the mountains about two months after the wreck on April 19th. I'm only 12. He's been there even when I drive him up the wall with Coldplay, he's still been there.
I feel extremely weird telling some strangers about my life but I was just hoping you could give me some advice on what to do.
Please answer me back it would mean a bunch!

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July 20, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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July 13, 2012 - submitted by Carol, Argentina

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #79

I am struggling with my daily life. I find it hard to attend to all of my duties in an organized way. This makes me feel distressed since I want to succeed in life and reach my goals. I started the year thinking that I would get over my difficulties but I am still carrying their burden. So please I need your help. Thing is I'm trying to do a myriad of things at the same time and it is definitely not working. I have an English tutor, a French tutor, I am starting to learn Arabic on my own with videos I find on the internet, plus I have a part time job which occupies 25 hours of my week. I know that as I write it everything sounds wonderful, but when it comes to sitting down and studying I cannot concentrate and end up wasting my time on Facebook for example. Then the tutor day comes, and I've done nothing. I have deadlines & examinations. I cannot waste my time, honestly. Languages take up a lot of time. And I want this year to be worth it. Another detail is that I sleep almost 11 hours a day, I can't wake up early and I go to bed late. Any tips for organizing myself and enjoy life? I love what I study, so that's not something to discuss.
Thank you so much.

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July 13, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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July 6, 2012 - submitted by Marie, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #78
I graduated from uni a year ago but I've had to take care of my disabled mother (not the greatest recent graduate story). I found out early this year she has terminal cancer and has about less than a year. I've tried getting support from friends but many of them don't understand what I must be going through and many have flat-out told me I've been too emotional. I'm starting to feel incredibly alone in this situation as I'm losing friends and any form of support (other than my family - but we're collectively having a hard time too). How do I get through these times? It's hard enough that I'm probably one of a handful of 22 year olds going through this. I have the strength sometimes but there are times I just can't help but feel more and more alone with no one to turn to.

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July 6, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we now have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 12th July.

I am struggling with my daily life. I find it hard to attend to all of my duties in an organized way. This makes me feel distressed since I want to succeed in life and reach my goals. I started the year thinking that I would get over my difficulties but I am still carrying their burden. So please I need your help. Thing is I'm trying to do a myriad of things at the same time and it is definitely not working. I have an English tutor, a French tutor, I am starting to learn Arabic on my own with videos I find on the internet, plus I have a part time job which occupies 25 hours of my week. I know that as I write it everything sounds wonderful, but when it comes to sitting down and studying I cannot concentrate and end up wasting my time on Facebook for example. Then the tutor day comes, and I've done nothing. I have deadlines & examinations. I cannot waste my time, honestly. Languages take up a lot of time. And I want this year to be worth it. Another detail is that I sleep almost 11 hours a day, I can't wake up early and I go to bed late. Any tips for organizing myself and enjoy life? I love what I study, so that's not something to discuss.
Thank you so much. Carol, Argentina.

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle

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June 29, 2012 - submitted by Anon, Ireland

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #77
I know this sounds weird, but I dislike most of my friends. There's only a couple of them I can even stand to be around but I don't feel close to most of them. Yeah I hang out with them but if I'm planning on seeing them I find myself dreading the event. I SHOULD like them but I just can't stand to be around them. Don't get me wrong, I'm a people person! I love strangers and I pretty much got an award for being friendly (to my shock)! When it comes to friends though, there's only 3 or 4 tops that I actually LIKE. I hate abandoning people once I get to know them but it's becoming a habit...
Can you help? Anon, Ireland.

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June 29, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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June 22, 2012 - submitted by Bec, United Kingdom

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #76
A few weeks ago I went to a new restaurant near to my house with a few friends. We had a great night and one of the waiters was talking to us. He seems like a really nice guy. Now I'm finding myself going back on a regular basis because I want to see him. I'm 18 but I think he is about 28 to 30 ish.
I'm really not the sort of person that could just tell him about it either, what shall I do ? Help !?

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June 22, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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June 15, 2012 - submitted by DG, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #75
I hope you can give me some advice. I've decided I want a small, subtle tattoo, but my boyfriend finds them "dirty and unattractive" and he thinks any woman with a tattoo is gross. Obviously I want him to be attracted to me, but at the same time, my body belongs to me and only me, and I'd like to put a little artwork on it. Do you think it would really jeopardize my relationship? What should I do?! D.G.

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June 15, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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June 8, 2012 - submitted by Cosette, France

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #74
A few weeks ago, my boyfriend told me that he thought this other girl was pretty, and we got in a minor fight about it, but it all ended well. But just a few days ago, I thought I heard him say something like 'she was pretty', I again got mad. He didn't have to say it, even though he was thinking it, ya know? But it turns out he said something else entirely and I had misheard. Now he's very angry with me because he thinks I don't trust him when he says he doesn't like another girl. I feel so ashamed and I love him dearly and had made a huge awful mistake. I don't know who else to go to, and I can't let such a mistake turn into a huge fight that ruins our relationship, which had been going steady for almost a year and a half. I just can't do that. Can you spare some advice to fix this mistake?

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June 8, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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June 1, 2012 - submitted by Rose, Netherlands

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #73
Last year I met a guy at school. He's nice to talk to and has a great sense of humor. Thing is that he has a girlfriend. I started to like him and I have no idea why, but he was feeling the same towards me.
After a couple of months spent to just get to know each other he kissed me and from that moment we were really close. A couple months ago I told him that I couldn't do this, because he is not leaving his girlfriend for me, which I understand. They have a history and he only knew me for 2 months. But after that I gave in again and we were having a good time.
But what now? Apparently he really likes me. I know because he told me, and we're always pretty honest to each other. I never lied or held something back for him, which is pretty special. But on the other hand am I still not good enough to leave his girlfriend. Don't get me wrong. He hates this situation as well, and he is a very nice guy.
I actually think I love him but I would never tell him. At least not when he's still in a relationship with her. I know that I should be the smart girl and stop it. I tried. Really. I love him and because he is being so sweet to me I am having a very hard time just trying to stop it.
Please tell me what I should do, because I don't think this situation should stay.

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June 1, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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May 25, 2012 - submitted by Gavin, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #72
I've been really depressed lately. I'm 20 years old and had my first kiss, and subsequent kisses thereafter for almost 2 months with a girl. Thing is, she really really liked me, but the entire time we were together, I could never figure out if I liked her or not. In fact, the first time she asked me to kiss her, I said no. I just wish I would have stopped it there, but I tried the relationship even though I wasn't sure about her. When it ended peacefully, I was fine. But now a couple weeks later I think back on it and regret everything. I feel like I gave a part of myself away for someone that I don't really like. It was my first time living at college away from home, so it was a stressful period, but that shouldn't be an excuse for seeking physical comfort from someone I wasn't sure about. Now I can't stop thinking about it and am truly depressed.

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May 25, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we now have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 31st May.

Last year I met a guy at school. He's nice to talk to and has a great sense of humor. Thing is that he has a girlfriend. I started to like him and I have no idea why, but he was feeling the same towards me. After a couple of months spent to just get to know each other he kissed me and from that moment we were really close. A couple months ago I told him that I couldn't do this, because he is not leaving his girlfriend for me, which I understand. They have a history and he only knew me for 2 months. But after that I gave in again and we were having a good time. But what now? Apparently he really likes me. I know because he told me, and we're always pretty honest to each other. I never lied or held something back for him, which is pretty special. But on the other hand am I still not good enough to leave his girlfriend. Don't get me wrong. He hates this situation as well, and he is a very nice guy. I actually think I love him but I would never tell him. At least not when he's still in a relationship with her. I know that I should be the smart girl and stop it. I tried. Really. I love him and because he is being so sweet to me I am having a very hard time just trying to stop it. Please tell me what I should do, because I don't think this situation should stay. Rose, The Netherlands.

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle

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May 18, 2012 - submitted by Viral, India

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #71
I really need your help. I am in love with my friend who does not love me back in the same manner. I even got her to reveal the fact that she avoids me nowadays because she thinks I like her. For friendship's sake, I told her that I didn't. But I know that she is the one for me and that no one can love her the way I do. I really want her to reciprocate the same feelings for me. What should I do??

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May 18, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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May 11, 2012 - submitted by A, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #70
This is from a 15 year old girl who is really fed up with this situation.
A few months ago my dad was having an affair. I knew it was going on as I had read some emails behind his back. Doing this I felt guilty for not doing telling my mom but at the same time I felt it was between them and I shouldn't get in the way of it. My mom found out but did not mention any of it to me. Honestly I thought they would separate but they didn't. Fast forward to a few months later and here I am in this hell hole. They are always fighting and I don't really know what to do. Usually I just go to my room and listen to loud music. I can still hear them and it p****s me off that I cannot do anything. I think in their eyes I am a clueless girl who is completely oblivious to everything going on in this house.
To make things worse, my 17 year old brother was recently caught stealing which just made me lose respect for him and quite honestly my whole family.
There are other things going on at school so it's like I don't belong anywhere. I can't remember the last time I was happy about anything, and because of this my grades have been going down. I have no close friends I can talk to and at school I've already broken down in front of two teachers because the simplest smallest things set off these angry emotions I've had bottled inside me. I hate going to school and failing at everything I do and looking at all these happy people that I am invisible to. I cry myself to sleep every night but I don't know why and it's so damn frustrating. I just don't know why I feel this way, why I'm angry, why I feel guilty about all this going on with my stupid dysfunctional family. I'm sorry if this does not make any sense at all but I just needed to let everything out. I'm not even sure what I'm asking.
Thank You for listening to me because I know no one else would.
A. USA.

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May 11, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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May 4, 2012 - submitted by Katelyn, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #69
I don't know where to start. I'm tired of being put down by my brother it may not seem much but it hurts so badly. I'm scared all the time now. I'm tired of crying. I act so happy but on the inside I'm dying. I don't want to be here anymore I don't know what to do.
Katelyn.

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May 4, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we now have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 10th May.

This is from a 15 year old girl who is really fed up with this situation.
A few months ago my dad was having an affair. I knew it was going on as I had read some emails behind his back. Doing this I felt guilty for not doing telling my mom but at the same time I felt it was between them and I shouldn't get in the way of it. My mom found out but did not mention any of it to me. Honestly I thought they would separate but they didn't. Fast forward to a few months later and here I am in this hell hole. They are always fighting and I don't really know what to do. Usually I just go to my room and listen to loud music. I can still hear them and it p****s me off that I cannot do anything. I think in their eyes I am a clueless girl who is completely oblivious to everything going on in this house.
To make things worse, my 17 year old brother was recently caught stealing which just made me lose respect for him and quite honestly my whole family.
There are other things going on at school so it's like I don't belong anywhere. I can't remember the last time I was happy about anything, and because of this my grades have been going down. I have no close friends I can talk to and at school I've already broken down in front of two teachers because the simplest smallest things set off these angry emotions I've had bottled inside me. I hate going to school and failing at everything I do and looking at all these happy people that I am invisible to. I cry myself to sleep every night but I don't know why and it's so damn frustrating. I just don't know why I feel this way, why I'm angry, why I feel guilty about all this going on with my stupid dysfunctional family. I'm sorry if this does not make any sense at all but I just needed to let everything out. I'm not even sure what I'm asking.
Thank You for listening to me because I know no one else would.
A. USA.

Look forward to seeing your replies.
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April 27, 2012 - submitted by Gutty, Brazil

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #68
My life has changed so much in the past 10 years that sometimes I feel kind of lost. I'm divorced since 2004, have a 9 years old girl and my business is ok but I feel empty and need to make a change in my life but how to change your soul in the way that you can be happy every moment? Thank you in advance. Gutty, Brazil.

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April 27, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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April 20, 2012 - submitted by Christina, United Kingdom

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #67
A few months ago I had a fallout with someone I love. Since then, I've seen this person everyday, and everyday we walk right by each other as if we were strangers. It absolutely kills me. The one thing that we will always have in common is that we are adamant Coldplay fans. How can I reconnect with this person? I truly am desperate. Thanks in advance. Christina.

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April 13, 2012 - submitted by Gabriella, Brazil

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #66
This week my parents had a major fight. I watched it all, and it's been very painful for me since then. I always thought they had a good - not perfect, but a good relationship, and suddenly, everything seems to be going down. I see both of them very unhappy and mad at each other, and I do feel like I have to pick one side of this story. But I could never do something like that. I just wanted to stay quiet about it all, but they keep telling me how sad they are with each other, and I just feel completely lost. I do disagree with many actions of both, but I'm not strong enough to tell them - especially my dad. And the idea of a divorce couldn't be worse for me. Do you have any idea of what can I do, if there's any way to help them?

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April 13, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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March 30, 2012 - submitted by Sabada, Bangladesh

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #65
I'm unsocial and I want to make more friends. I'm beginning to hate being a loner and I have no idea why I can't manage to have many companions. I love people and I care about them a lot too but yet I am a loner.
Thankyou.
Love,
Sababa

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March 30, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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March 23, 2012 - submitted by Mary, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #64
How can I help my husband get through mid life crisis? I want to help him so much but I can't seem to get it right.
Do u have any ideas?
Mary, USA.

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March 23, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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March 16, 2012 - submitted by Jane, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #63
I really need your help. Yesterday, I got in an accident while trying out for varsity volleyball. I knew I wasn't going to make varsity, but I thought it would be a good experience. When we were scrimmaging, I went for a ball that was not mine and a varsity player landed on me while trying to hit from back row. Everyone was watching, including the boys team. She is injured now and out for quite some time. This is the second time my stupidity has been the cause of someone's injury. I feel like I am the one who needs to be punished. How has this happened to me two times in less than a year? I am spiraling into depression and terrified to go back to school. I don't know what to do.
Thanks, Jane. USA.

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March 16, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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March 9, 2012 - submitted by Emma, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #62
Two years ago, I came out as gay to my closest friends. I thought they would accept me but I ended up losing every friend I had but one. I ended up developing severe depression for almost two years, and it got so bad that I was suicidal at one point. Now, two years later, I have a steady group of close friends who accept me and love me, but I'm not out to my extended friend group. It's uncomfortable being around them, having to pretend that I'm interested when they're talking about who they like and not being able to talk about that myself. It's near torture on a daily basis. I feel like I'm hiding part of who I am from my friends. The thing is, I'm terrified that if I come out to those friends I'll end up losing them, and I don't know if I'd be able to handle that all over again. Could you maybe help me out here? Thanks.

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March 9, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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March 2, 2012 - submitted by Martin, Costa Rica

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #61
I play bass and drums in my church and was one of the youth leaders. There was a main youth leader who was going to give me many chances, like to preach, organise stuff, etc. I had a great freedom and opportunities. However, some people arrived to the leadership who changed everything according to their will. They even changed the main leader and then my participation was obsolete. Now, in music, one of the persons who cut my wings has it against me. If I say something, that person contradicts me. I don't know if the other people notice that and some times in the past I spoke about it and people thought I was a rebel. What can I do? I really love my church and love playing music in it, but I don't want my wings to be cut anymore. Thanks for responding me. Martin, Costa Rica.

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March 2, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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February 24, 2012 - submitted by Emma, Australia

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #60
I have this friend whom I'm very very close with. We've expressed feelings for each other too. Problem is he lives about 2 hours away and we're both young so I only see him when he comes up every two or so months. Which hasn't been a REALLY big problem until recently. He has ALOT of work and I understand that but, after two weeks of virtually no contact and not even a happy birthday (which I'm especially hurt by) and me making calls and calls all going to voice mail. I've tried telling him to call me back but he never does. And it's so sudden it's not like him at all! My question is, do I give up and leave him be? Thanks Oracle. Emma, Australia.

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February 24, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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February 17, 2012 - submitted by Becca, United Kingdom

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #59
Recently, everything has been more than a little upside-down for me. Back in October, my best friend's dad killed himself. It happened at about 2pm on a Saturday afternoon. By 2.30pm, I was there too. I won't go into details but I'm just not coping with anything to do with that. At all. I have post-traumatic stress disorder and I'm really too terrified to talk to any of my friends about it, since last time I was dealing with a very sudden death, everyone kind of turned their backs on me.
I feel so, so alone and I've just had enough with feeling the way I do. I'm using sarcasm to deflect from all of my feelings but I don't want to hurt my friends' feelings - though nor do I want them to find out. I don't want to be pitied, just understood.
Please, please help me. I don't know who else I can turn to.
Thank you.

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February 17, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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February 10, 2012 - submitted by Paz, Colombia

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #58
My parents are divorced (one of the ugly ones in which they both hate each other). I always had a very close relationship with my father, despite the fact we don't live together, but lately he has turned into this horrible person I don't even recognize.
He got himself a girlfriend, and regardless it being hard (as I think it is every time your parents date new people) I have absolutely no problem in him dating.
But since he started dating he just stopped talking to me or my siblings, the few (now none) moments we spent together he just talked on the phone with her and since she lives in another city he leaves for months in a row and simply disappears.
To make matters worse, he decided he will no longer pay to my mom the money he gave her to her (after the divorce) to help with my brothers' and my expenses. My mom is a hard worker, but her sole salary is just not enough to pay everything, and currently we are practically living off my mom's family good heart , they are the best and we are absolutely grateful for them, but it's just not fair.
I don't know what to do, I considered taking legal action but not only my parents never officialized the money agreement in the divorce, but since me and my brothers are all over age, I don't think would be useful.
I am deeply hurt and disappointed, my dad has ignored our attempts to talk, he simply ran away. I don't even know if I want to see him again.
Please Oracle, I am so desperate I would appreciate some advice.

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February 10, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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February 3, 2012 - submitted by Liam, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #57
Oh, Oracle, I need you (and who ever else is willing)'s help. My life is in shambles, I'm trying to pick up the pieces. My teachers hate me. My grades are in the toilet, even though I have an estimated IQ of around 160, and I can't go one day without getting yelled at by my parents or teachers. I was kicked off my school duties when a teacher overreacted, I'm constantly in trouble for things I don't do, I'm confused, about love, life, and everything else. Please help, I just need to know, what should I do? Life advice, jokes, humor, anything, I just need some help.
Thanks.
Liam
P.S. I have tickets to see Coldplay in Chicago in August, and I love them, but I'm so sad I'm having trouble even getting excited about that.

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February 3, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we now have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before Thursday 9th February.

My parents are divorced (one of the ugly ones in which they both hate each other) and I always had a very close relationship with my father, despite the fact we don't live together, but lately he has turned into this horrible person I don't even recognize.
He got himself a girlfriend, and regardless it being hard (as I think it is every time your parents date new people) I have absolutely no problem in him dating.
But since he started dating he just stopped talking to me or my siblings, the few (now none) moments we spent together he just talked on the phone with her and since she lives in another city he leaves for months in a row and simply disappears.
To make matters worse, he decided he will no longer pay to my mom the money he gave her to her (after the divorce) to help with my brothers' and my expenses. My mom is a hard worker, but her sole salary is just not enough to pay everything, and currently we are practically living off my mom's family good heart, they are the best and we are absolutely grateful for them, but it's just not fair.
I don't know what to do, I considered taking legal action but not only my parents never officialized the money agreement in the divorce, but since me and my brothers are all over age, I don't think would be useful.
I am deeply hurt and disappointed, my dad has ignored our attempts to talk, he simply ran away. I don't even know if I want to see him again.
Please Oracle, I am so desperate I would appreciate some advice.
Paz, Colombia.

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January 27, 2012 - submitted by Peyton, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #56
Recently I decided to sign up for an audition for the Governors School for the Arts in Kentucky. This is a really amazing opportunity to work on my vision as an artist. Currently I'm working with new media, and in this I'm submitting a portfolio of photography. I thought it would be interesting to add a personal touch by using a specific Coldplay song as an inspiration. In the interviewing process we generally have to describe many things about ourselves and what inspires us most (which one of mine you can automatically assume is Coldplay).
I was just wondering what would be the best song/ album to get inspiration from. Thanks much, Peyton.

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January 27, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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January 20, 2012 - submitted by Jorge, Ecuador

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #55
I have a problem. I'm in love with my best friend's sister. My friends told me that it will be better if tell him the truth that something was going between us, when I did he say he was fine but after while he start stopping inviting me to his house (like 3 times a week) and stop talking to me so did other friends of my that were close to him. So I decide it was not worth losing my friends for even though that I have not felt so in love with anyone else.
Did I make the right choice? What should I do if I still love her? Jorge, Ecuador.

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January 20, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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January 13, 2012 - submitted by Malin, Norway

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #54
The Christmas of 2011, has been the worst of my entire life. I got home one day, and my parents told me they are getting a divorce, and my dad is moving out. On top of that, a week before Christmas, my boyfriend for 3 years told me he wanted to break up. My life is changing, and I have no clue what I'm supposed to do. I can't take this anymore. The sadness is just too much. Sadness is a sea, and I have been swimming for a long time. Hopefully, music, time and freedom will help, but I need some advice; how do I get passed this, when I have an extra hundred things on my mind? How am I supposed to keep swimming? And, can you recommend some music that helps?
Thank you.

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January 13, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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January 6, 2012 - submitted by Madalena, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #53
I am 15 years old. I think I suffer from hyperhydrosis. It's not that much of a big deal, but it is uncomfortable and ruins my self-esteem.
I mean, I already feel like a freak most of the time, but this makes me feel even weirder and disgusting.
My parents won't take me to the doctor, because they think I'm making everything up. I'm starting to get desperate and I don't know what to do.
This is not really something I can tell my friends about, so you're the one that occurred to me.
Please help me. I'm desperate. I don't know what to do.
Love from a Coldplayer,
Madalena

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January 6, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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December 30, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #52 part ii

Pick one outstanding moment of 2011 and tell us why it meant so much to you.
It doesn't have to be Coldplay related...

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December 30, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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December 23, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #52

Pick one outstanding moment of 2011 and tell us why it meant so much to you.
It doesn't have to be Coldplay related...

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December 16, 2011 - submitted by Gracie, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #51

Tonight, I went to a school dance with some of my friends. I asked my ex-boyfriend to dance, but he said no. I saw him dancing with one of my best friends, and I found out later that they had been dating, but I didn't know. What should I do? Should I be mad at both of them?

Gracie, USA

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December 16, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. It's that time of year. Throughout 2011 many of you have written in and each Friday Team Oracle have given their honest thoughts on matters of the
heart.
Over the festive period it's time to lighten the mood and ask you all one, not so simple, question:

In no more than 200 words, pick one outstanding moment of 2011 and tell us why it meant so much to you.
It doesn't have to be Coldplay related...

ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 22nd December.

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December 9, 2011 - submitted by Garietta, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #50
It's five o' clock in the morning and I woke up quite suddenly with the fear that my life turned out wrong. 35 year old college graduate. I survived medical school, surgical residency, and additional training in the field of vascular surgery. Yet today I sit on my mother's couch, unemployed, without the comfort of a lover arms, or the joy of a child's quiet breathing in the next room.
Right now the choices I made, the sacrifices I made seem inconsequential. So my question is do I continue blindly on the path I have laid out of myself even though I know I have to compromise the vision of myself/my future that I carried in my head or do I do something different?

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December 9, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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December 2, 2011 - submitted by Rens, Netherlands

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #49
A few days ago I heard that my cat wouldn't make it 'til Christmas because of her critic illness (she doesn't suffer right now by the way). That's horrible to hear and I already miss her!
I hate losing pets, I find it so hard to accept that you can never hug them again when they're gone.
Do you, or the band ever lost a pet? And what did you do to ease your pain?
Regards, Rens.

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December 2, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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November 25, 2011 - submitted by Alexandra, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #48

I'm in love with my best friend. He has a girlfriend, but he says that he doesn't love her anymore, and that he loves me. I had asked him why he wouldn't just break up with her, and he told me that he was "working on it". Now, when I see him, he won't speak to me, and will ultimately try to ignore me whenever I try to confront him. He's also moving after the school year ends, and he's telling me that we should try and get into the same universities. He expects me to wait for him, but that's not being realistic. The problem is that he's been complaining about his girlfriend (she's not a very nice person) and keeps promising to end it with her, when he doesn't keep his word. Do you think he might be lying to me about loving me and not her? Thanks. Alexandra, USA.

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November 25, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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November 18, 2011 - submitted by Jack, United Kingdom

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #47

I am in need of some relationship advice. Me and my girlfriend have been having a few troubles. She has informed me she feels guarded from me after having an argument in a nightclub. This feeling did not resolve after a week and she broke up with me. She is still living in our flat and is moving out at the weekend. Last night I tried to rekindle our love by making a romantic gesture, by shouting my love mixed with lines of Romeo and Juliet up to her on a balcony. This is uncharacteristic of me so I thought it would mean a lot. She informed me it wasn't enough. That the only thing that might of worked was a marriage proposal. This is where it turns ugly, then during the conversation after what she had just said I ask her to marry me. She is like I don't believe you, you're insincere. Now we are stuck because I love her and I would marry her because it means so much to her and I only want to spend my life with her. It is the case now that, how can I buy a ring and ask her because it only seems I'm doing it as a last desperate plea to stop her leaving. It is a 3 year relationship but we are quite young I'm 23 and she is 21. I'm sure she still loves me because if not why would she want a proposal to try and save it in the first place. Jack.

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November 18, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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November 11, 2011 - submitted by Laila, Egypt

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #46

Two of my best friends, whom I've known for the past 7 years, keep asking me to hang out with them every weekend. But I really don't like hanging out with them cause it always involves doing something crazy and drinking. I always lie and tell them that my parents wouldn't let me go out that day or that I'm busy studying. Eventually they'll stop trying to be friends with me. They don't understand that I don't like doing what they do every week. Now that I don't have any classes with the both of them at school anymore, we don't spend much time together. So in order for me to see them, I have to go out with them. I just don't know what to do. Help? Laila

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November 11, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we now have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before Thursday 17th November.

I am in need of some relationship advice. Me and my girlfriend have been having a few troubles. She has informed me she feels guarded from me after having an argument in a nightclub. This feeling did not resolve after a week and she broke up with me. She is still living in our flat and is moving out at the weekend. Last night I tried to rekindle our love by making a romantic gesture, by shouting my love mixed with lines of Romeo and Juliet up to her on a balcony. This is uncharacteristic of me so I thought it would mean a lot. She informed me it wasn't enough. That the only thing that might of worked was a marriage proposal. This is where it turns ugly, then during the conversation after what she had just said I ask her to marry me. She is like I don't believe you, you're insincere. Now we are stuck because I love her and I would marry her because it means so much to her and I only want to spend my life with her. It is the case now that, how can I buy a ring and ask her because it only seems I'm doing it as a last desperate plea to stop her leaving. It is a 3 year relationship but we are quite young I'm 23 and she is 21. I'm sure she still loves me because if not why would she want a proposal to try and save it in the first place. Jack.

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle.

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November 4, 2011 - submitted by Lliam, United States of America

Q. ID: 2345
TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #45

I am a 16 year old guy having trouble with a parent who smokes. My mother has been smoking on and off for years, but she's been doing it a lot lately. I've tried countless times to get her to quit over the years, but all my attempts have failed so far. Today, while driving home, I got on her nerves - and like usual, she pulls out a cigarette and starts smoking in the car. I bring up the question "Mom, why do you have to smoke" and like usual, she gets mad and tell me to stop talking about it. I didn't want to - I kept on talking about it as she ignored me, and when we got home, she went off on me because I kept bugging her about it.
I hate to admit it, but I don't think I'm mature enough to really stand up to her and tell her how I truly feel about her smoking problems. My mother means the world to me; she does everything for me, and is just an all around great person - but when it comes to her smoking and thinking about the damage she is doing to herself, it scares me thinking of what could result from it in the future... So I'm asking very kindly if maybe you could lend me a hand here, and tell me how I can really confront her about this. Lliam.

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November 4, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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October 28, 2011 - submitted by Steven, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #44

My girlfriend and I broke up about 3 weeks ago in a mutual agreement because she believed she was not ready for a long term relationship just yet, so we promised to wait for each other. But since we went our different ways we have not spoken to each other and I'm really worried that maybe things won't be the same. What do you think I should do? Thank you in advance. Steven.

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October 28, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?

When I answer questions of a personal nature, Coldplay.com readers
often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we now have a weekly
feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's
permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then,
the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers,
alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to
the following question, in no more than 250 words, to
theoracle@coldplay.com before Thursday 3rd November.

"I am a 16 year old guy having trouble with a parent who smokes. My mother has been smoking on and off for years, but she's been doing it a lot lately. I've tried countless times to get her to quit over the years, but all my attempts have failed so far. Today, while driving home, I got on her nerves - and like usual, she pulls out a cigarette and starts smoking in the car. I bring up the question "Mom, why do you have to smoke" and like usual, she gets mad and tell me to stop talking about it. I didn't want to - I kept on talking about it as she ignored me, and when we got home, she went off on me because I kept bugging her about it.
I hate to admit it, but I don't think I'm mature enough to really stand up to her and tell her how I truly feel about her smoking problems. My mother means the world to me; she does everything for me, and is just an all around great person - but when it comes to her smoking and thinking about the damage she is doing to herself, it scares me thinking of what could result from it in the future... So I'm asking very kindly if maybe you could lend me a hand here, and tell me how I can really confront her about this. Lliam."

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle

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October 21, 2011 - submitted by Chance, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #43

So I have to decide between 2 girls, (we'll call them Sarah and
Melissa) I have liked Sarah for 5 years, we dated for a while but we
broke up. I met Melissa a few weeks ago, and we've been talking and
then when I'm about to ask Melissa to be my girlfriend, Sarah calls me
and basically confesses that she made a mistake letting me go and
wants me back, forever. Going back to Sarah could be a risk because I
could get hurt again, but she thinks I'm the one for her. And I don't
know how to decide who I should pick. please help me Oracle.
Chance.

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October 21, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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October 16, 2011 - submitted by Michelle, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #42

I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 months and we've had problems
in the relationship since the beginning. I love him and he loves me,
but we everything seems so much more complicated than it really is. We
cannot seem to be completely happy all the time. I guess I am not
asking for your help, but rather your point of view. Michelle.

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October 16, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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October 7, 2011 - submitted by Cydney, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #41
Dear Oracle, I am having friend troubles. I have two groups of friends and both hate each other. Right now they are both mad at me because I have been "spending too much time" with both of them. I don't know how to deal with this! Please help! Cydney.

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October 7, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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September 30, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
Team Oracle is back!
When I answer questions of a personal nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we now have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before Thursday 6th October.

"Dear Oracle, I am having friend troubles. I have two groups of friends and both hate each other. Right now they are both mad at me because I have been "spending too much time" with both of them. I don't know how to deal with this! Please help! Cydney."

Look forward to seeing your replies.
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September 15, 2011 - submitted by Adrienne, United States of America

Q. Dearest Oracle,

I was just wondering for the Team Oracle questions that anyone can answer, do you choose every single answer that was submitted?

Thanks.
Adrienne

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September 9, 2011 - submitted by Genevieve, Australia

Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #40
My brother's best friend died last week. He was only 26 years old and it was completely sudden and shocking. He was more like a brother than a friend to my siblings and I. I have been listening to sad songs lately (Into The West from LOTR is a good one). Do you know any good songs that you can recommend which deal with death or the loss of a loved one?

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September 2, 2011 - submitted by Matheus, Brazil

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION # 39
I'm having a bad time. I'm not feeling well about myself. I lost a friend, he died two days ago and he was 19. He was one of that kind of people you want to be like. I lost my girlfriend cause I was a jerk. And I'm looking for a way up. I want to find ways to become a better person. I'm lost in my mind. How can I put myself together?

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September 2, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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August 26, 2011 - submitted by Maddie, United States of America

Q. Team Oracle Question # 38
Do you have any tips on how to get passed a divorce? I'm almost 13 and my parents are getting divorced and I'm so scared. I need tips on what to do. My dad won't tell me very much on his point of view on it but my mom is really sad and she tells me a lot of this, how can I get my dad to tell me why he has fallen out of love with my mom?

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August 26, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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August 19, 2011 - submitted by Kenny, United States of America

Q. Team Oracle Question # 37
I have been in a slump as of late. It's been a little while, but I broke up with a girl I was dating because I found out she was cheating. I have been trying to move on and focus on myself, but even so I still feel empty, I'll accomplish something but it doesn't make me feel happy. Listening to Coldplay all day is what helps me through the day. I blame myself for a lot of things even if I wasn't wrong and don't have much confidence in myself either. Is there a way to change this about myself?

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August 19, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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August 12, 2011 - submitted by Nicole, United Kingdom

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #36
"Do you think long distance relationships are worth it? I feel like you'd have some advice because as you travel a lot with Coldplay your relationship, if you have one, may become strained at times. I live a few hours away from this person depending on the way of transportation. I do love them dearly, but sometimes it just becomes very difficult to deal with as I don't see them often. I feel as though I'm stuck quite a bit, I want to stay with them as we plan to be together very much in the future, but I'm not sure if all the stress is worth it. What shall I do? Nicole."

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August 12, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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August 5, 2011 - submitted by Anon, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #35
"I am a very forgetful and inattentive person and I'm very insecure about it. Sometimes I zone off in class and when I get home to do homework, I have trouble focusing and doing it. I believe I have a form of ADD/ADHD, but my parents don't believe me. I think being tested could help me, but I can't convince them. My friends think I'm being ridiculous, too. What should I do to get help?!"

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August 5, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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July 29, 2011 - submitted by Diane, United Kingdom

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #34
"I have suffered so much heartache in such little time and am really struggling to find any good of anything right now.
Last August my mother died it was a shock even though we knew she was ill. I was slowly coming to terms with her loss but still not healed. We were very close and she was my best friend as well as my mother.
On 25th June, my birthday, myself and my brother were going out to celebrate but on that morning my brother phoned me complaining of chest pain and arm pain and one hour later he suffered a massive heart attack and died. He was only 38 and we were also very close. I always spoke with him about losing our mum and he always knew what to say to ease my pain.
I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel like everybody I love is being taken away from me and I have lost interest in everything. I feel like I will never get over these massive losses. I miss them so much my life will never be the same without them. I try to remember all the good times, but then am consumed by hurt and anger that there will be no more memories of them and I just don't know what to do? Diane."

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July 29, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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July 22, 2011 - submitted by Meg, Ireland

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #33
My Dad can no longer pay the mortgage on the house where he has lived all his life and I have lived all my life and I think tonight he is going to tell our family we are going to lose our home, what should I do?

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July 22, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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July 15, 2011 - submitted by Glenn, Belgium

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #32

"I'm single now for almost 3 years. My last girlfriend dumped me after nine months. My confidence just hit rockbottom since then. In the past 3 years she started and ended relationships on a regular basis. The only time I heard from her is when she either started dating a fellow again or got dumped. So the other day she starts texting me that she needs my help: she is tired of life and doesn't want to live anymore because she got dumped again. So yet again I keep talking courage into her like always. And as I predicted I heard nothing from her after a couple of days. In other words: when I boosted her self image enough, she didn't know me. This being the eigth or nineth time this happened in this exact fashion, I had enough. I told her what was who and that if she saw me only as a booster of her confidence while she destroyed mine completely, she should fine herself another fool. She said, I'm sorry, I'll leave you alone. Now I'm starting to doubt my action because that was not my intent. Dear Oracle, PLEASE, I need some advise! Glenn".

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July 15, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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July 8, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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July 1, 2011 - submitted by Sam, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #31

"I'm a 16 year old guy, living in the US, and recently I've been really down on myself. I do well in school, I have a good family, and good friends. The only thing that I feel is missing is a girl. This feels so juvenile, but I'm scared to make any sort of move! Please, precious Oracle, give me some advice, anything that will help me to gain some confidence in my interactions with the fairer sex! Sam."

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July 1, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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June 24, 2011 - submitted by Xiao, United Kingdom

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #30
Hi Oracle. I am 25 and need your advice. I'm single (have been all my life) still living with my parents and have no skills. I work (at MacDonalds minimum wage) and I am willing to work hard to earn money. I know it sounds pathetic for someone my age to say it but, I still have no idea what I want to do in life. I am terrified of the future. I really want to move out, but I still want to go back to China (I went in 2008) and I know I can't do that if I move out. The only things that gives me comfort are my friends and family, music and Buddhism. Sorry to ask such a stupid question and to phrase it so long, but what would you do? Stay at home or move out? Thanks and Buddha bless you all. Xiao.

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June 24, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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June 17, 2011 - submitted by Grace, Canada

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #29
In April, I ended things with a guy. I still liked him alot, but I just didn't want a relationship.
He took it really hard, and I'm pretty sure he hates me now.
Whenever I try to talk to him, he keeps saying how I broke his heart and everything, and I'm starting to feel really bad and guilty about what happened. I know I have no reason to, I just didn't want a relationship, it was a mistake. But I still feel terrible.
Now I can't stop saying I'm sorry, and he just won't forgive me.
At this point, he is being childish, but I can't take the guilt of knowing I've broken someones heart anymore... And I don't know what to do about it if he won't accept my sincere apologies.
Also, alot of his friends are starting to hate me now. Some of them are also my friends, and I'm losing them.
Dear Oracle, please help me. I can't take the guilt and the hate. I don't know what to do anymore. Grace.

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June 17, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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June 10, 2011 - submitted by Frances, Canada

Q. Team Oracle - #28
I am 13 years old, but my family keeps treating me like I am 5 just because I am the youngest. I've tried to tell them how I feel about being treated that way (it embarrasses me, it makes me feel stupid, and it's driving me nuts!) but they don't listen. It is keeping me from being able to communicate with them because sometimes they don't take me seriously. Any ideas that could help?

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June 10, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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June 4, 2011 - submitted by Mindy, United States of America

Q. Team Oracle - #27
"I've been diagnosed with a pretty bad disease, but this wasn't recent.
My family and I had thought that it was in remission.
But now, it's come back even worse, and it's really impacting my life.
I am 14, I play representative sports and I'm in year 10.
My school and my sport lives have always clashed, but it's worse this time around, with both becoming more involved and more intense.
My arthritis makes it hard for me to do the things I love, which is my sport, and makes it quite painful for me to be at school, which I don't enjoy.
I have my ups and downs, but with such a large work load, and so little time because of my sport, I am starting to feel so very overwhelmed with stress.
I know it's only going to get worse throughout the semester.
I get tired and sore very easily, and my family and friends get very worried for me.
Do you have any suggestions which could make me struggle less with the work/sport/rest balance? Mindy, Australia."

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June 3, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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May 27, 2011 - submitted by Alexis, United States of America

Q. Team Oracle - #26
"I have been a terrible liar to my family. I feel like I am stuck in a web of lies. I have recently been telling the truth. Still, I don't feel right inside. The worst part is, my mom found about all my lying and has not been believing me. I don't blame her though. Oracle, please tell me what to do. I need some direction. Also, please note that I am only of 12years of age.
Alexis"

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May 27, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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May 20, 2011 - submitted by Giovanni, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #25
"My girlfriend and I just recently broke up and I'm falling apart. I don't know what to do with myself, she was my everything. It was my fault though, I have issues with my self-confidence and I'm always acting insecure. Those feelings eventually drove her away because I'm acting "too clingy." I'm trying to work on these feelings but I can't help the way I feel sometimes. I want her back more than anything else and I know she still has feelings for me as well, but I'm not sure if she still wants to be in a relationship with me. I could use your advice. Giovanni"

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May 20, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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May 13, 2011 - submitted by Agnes, Sweden

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #24
"After 6 months together, my ex dumped me horribly and kind of by mistake on our 6 month anniversary. A long, confusing and heartbreaking summer followed, but since we sort of broke up for no reason, and he's in my class, we still had feelings and started seeing each other again this fall. I want him back more than anything in the world, but he doesn't want to commit even though he tells me he still likes me. He says he can't be in a relationship "right now", but the thing is, he's told me the same thing since October. Am I on the hook? Do I wait for him? What on earth do I do, I am miserable without him, yet this is not what I truly want. Agnes."

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May 13, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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May 6, 2011 - submitted by Sarra, Tunisia

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #23
I've lost my best friend after 3 years of friendship. I trusted her, she wasn't like all the other friends but like a sister!
This year, after the summer vacations, I've noticed that she changed, she started acting like a superficial girl! And she started hanging out with more out-going people, cause I'm considered as the girl who spends her time playing piano, painting, reading or studying. On facebook, she shared her pictures with her new friends and I don't know how to react!
It's kinda crazy, but I feel like I have to do something back! A couple of years ago, I was the popular girl, and she didn't have any friends. I got bored of my situation and I chose and introduced her to all my other friend (because she wasn't sociable). Sometimes, I feel like she's jealous, because in my high school, I'm like my teachers' pet.
I still want her to be my best-friend, and I tried so many times to rebuild our friendship, but it seems like she replaced me, after all I did for her.
Please Oracle, what should I do?

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May 6, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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April 29, 2011 - submitted by Fiona, Hong Kong

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #22
I just wanted to ask what one should do if their parents don't allow them to do what they want with their life?
My parents are quite strict and they don't think art is something good to do.
When I told them that I wanted to take a vocational course on art
they were really really angry and said they wouldn't let me. What do I do? Fiona

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April 29, 2011 - submitted by Oracle, United Kingdom

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April 22, 2011 - submitted by Annie, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #21
I have an extremely embarrassing dad who has a very weird and uncommon hobby, which requires having things stuck outside the house that don't look exactly normal. My dad doesn't realize that he embarrasses me and my brother, but I don't know how to explain to him about how I feel without entirely hurting his feelings. Also, two of my neighbors are in my grade and I'm not entirely the most popular kid in the school and and I'm scared of having to explain to them. My dad has tried to get me into his hobby and whenever I have friends over, he takes his hobby all over the house and my friends look embarrassed when they ask me about it. Please help! I need some advice before I do anything! Annie

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April 22, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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April 15, 2011 - submitted by Elizabeth, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #20
Last May my parents decided to get a divorce, which was actually a positive thing because my dad was abusive to my mother. He's already remarried and I've never met the woman he married, nor was I invited to the wedding. I decided to cut my dad out of my life because he isn't a good person, but I still have really mixed feelings because he's my dad and I love him, and he only was bad to me a few times growing up. Anyways, ever since then I've been feeling sad non-stop, I don't want to get out of bed in the mornings, the things I used to be passionate about don't interest me anymore, and even though I'm a really good kid, I find myself doing bad things that I never would've done before. I'm afraid that I might be depressed and need some kind of help before I get worse but I don't want to tell my mom and have her make a big deal of it. What do you think I should do? Elizabeth

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April 15, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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April 8, 2011 - submitted by Ana, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #20
I turned 20 this summer and I'm having trouble getting used to not being a teen anymore. It makes me very sad sometimes. I think its because I'm a little scared about growing up and having all these responsibilities, like finding the right career and getting a good job. For some reason I feel really old sometimes, but then I feel like I'm not mature enough for my age. I'm just so confused. Did you go through this or am I the only one?

Really hope you answer this one.

Thanks,
A

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April 8, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. Every Friday we now have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each week (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 200 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before Thursday 14th April.

"Last May my parents decided to get a divorce, which was actually a positive thing because my dad was abusive to my mother. He's already remarried and I've never met the woman he married, nor was I invited to the wedding. I decided to cut my dad out of my life because he isn't a good person, but I still have really mixed feelings because he's my dad and I love him, and he only was bad to me a few times growing up. Anyways, ever since then I've been feeling sad non-stop, I don't want to get out of bed in the mornings, the things I used to be passionate about don't interest me anymore, and even though I'm a really good kid, I find myself doing bad things that I never would've done before. I'm afraid that I might be depressed and need some kind of help before I get worse but I don't want to tell my mom and have her make a big deal of it. What do you think I should do? Elizabeth."

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle

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April 1, 2011 - submitted by Jared, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #19
I realize that this is a sort of personal question and if you don't answer I understand, but I just like to hear people's stories. So here goes: Who is someone that has really helped shaped who you are? Because none of us are without our role models and influences.
Jared.

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March 25, 2011 - submitted by K, United States of America

Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #18
I have this one friend that was my super best pal, but then about three months ago we got into a fight and grew apart. We just got back to being how we were before, but she totally betrayed me and I feel so broken.
I want to give her a second chance, but I'm afraid that she'll abuse my trust again.
Should I try to be pals again? K

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March 25, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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March 18, 2011 - submitted by Ana, United States of America

Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #17
I'm a 20 year old who does not know how to drive. I am terrified of driving because I have been in the front passenger seat of two car accidents. My family tells me all the time that I need to drive and I know it is true. But just thinking about driving makes me really freaked out and sometimes I even feel like crying because of how scary driving seems to me. I need to drive now, because I have to go to school and I can't keep asking for rides. How do you think I can get over this fear and drive already?! Ana.

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March 18, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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March 11, 2011 - submitted by Liv, Belgium

Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #16
"Since 3 months I have got an amazing boyfriend. He is my first boyfriend and way more experienced than I am. About two weeks ago he asked me what I wanted. According to him I am not very open and I do not express my feelings well, also I am not very assertive and he wished I would open up more. I realize what he wants but I can't trust people within 3 months enough to really open up. I have had some bad experiences with that in the past. I told him this and he understands, I know he does. However, even thought I do not have to share my entire life immediately I find it very, very hard to let people in. Does anyone have tips, because I realize this is not good.
Thanks, Liv."

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March 11, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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March 6, 2011 - submitted by Timothy, United States of America

Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #15
"I have a friend who I am worried for. He is really short and gets picked on a lot and he takes his anger out by bullying other people. The other day he got mad for someone sitting in his seat and he threw his milk at him, (a closed carton) and he keeps being a jerk to some of my other friends. He really doesn't know how to handle situations where he is bullied and always does the wrong thing and gets in trouble. I want to help him but I don't how to tell him he isn't doing the right thing, he grew up being bullied and still is and it's just so hard and I want to help. Thank you, Timothy."

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March 4, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal/emotional nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we now have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
So, if you'd like to join in, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 200 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before Thursday 10th March.

"Since 3 months I have got an amazing boyfriend. He is my first boyfriend and way more experienced than I am. About two weeks ago he asked me what I wanted. According to him I am not very open and I do not express my feelings well, also I am not very assertive and he wished I would open up more. I realize what he wants but I can't trust people within 3 months enough to really open up. I have had some bad experiences with that in the past. I told him this and he understands, I know he does. However, even though I do not have to share my entire life immediately I find it very, very hard to let people in. Does anyone have tips, because I realize this is not good. Thanks, Liv"

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle

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February 25, 2011 - submitted by Brian, Netherlands

Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #14
"I'm very insecure about my appearance. I think I'm very ugly. I've got acne, protruding ears and glasses. And probably a lot more... I'm just so afraid that I'll never have a girlfriend and that I will die alone. Although I've got a lot of good friends who tell me that I'm not ugly, I know that they're not telling what they're thinking... I just feel so sad. Brian"

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February 25, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal/emotional nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we now have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
So, if you'd like to join in, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 200 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before Thursday 3rd March.

"I have a friend who I am worried for. He is really short and gets picked on a lot and he takes his anger out by bullying other people. The other day he got mad for someone sitting in his seat and he threw his milk at him, (a closed carton) and he keeps being a jerk to some of my other friends. He really doesn't know how to handle situations where he is bullied and always does the wrong thing and gets in trouble. I want to help him but I don't know how to tell him he isn't doing the right thing, he grew up being bullied and still is and it's just so hard and I want to help. Thank you. Timothy"

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle

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February 18, 2011 - submitted by Laura, Italy
Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #13
"I've got a problem concerning my friend. She's been dating this guy for about a year and she's 19 years old. She's currently planning her wedding.
I'd like to be happy for her, but I'm afraid that she's rushing into this. I don't feel like I can just watch her get married with someone she might not know well enough and possibly end up miserable in a marriage she can't get out of (her faith doesn't approve divorce).
What should I do? She's too in love to listen to the reasons not to get married. Should I just ignore possible problems and go shop for a wedding gift? Laura"
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February 18, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom
Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal/emotional nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we now have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
So, if you'd like to join in, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 200 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before Thursday 24th February.

"I'm very insecure about my appearance. I think I'm very ugly. I've got acne, protruding ears and glasses. And probably a lot more... I'm just so afraid that I'll never have a girlfriend and that I will die alone. Although I've got a lot of good friends who tell me that I'm not ugly, I know that they're not telling what they're thinking... I just feel so sad. Brian"

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle
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February 11, 2011 - submitted by Caitlin, United States of America
Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #12
"I have a bit of a problem, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 10 years, we even have a 2 year old together, but lately we have been arguing non stop. If I didn't have a child with him I'm sure I would break it off. I almost feel like all of this fighting is getting in the way of my parenting. What should I do? Caitlin."
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February 11, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom
Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal/emotional nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we now have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
So, if you'd like to join in, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 200 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before Thursday 17th February.

"I've got a problem concerning my friend. She's been dating for this guy for about a year and she's 19 years old. She's currently planning her wedding.
I'd like to be happy for her, but I'm afraid that she's rushing into this. I don't feel like I can just watch her get married with someone she might not know well enough and possibly end up miserable in a marriage she can't get out of (her faith doesn't approve divorce).
What should I do? She's too in love to listen to the reasons not to get married. Should I just ignore possible problems and go shop for a wedding gift?"

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle
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February 4, 2011 - submitted by Timmy, United States of America
Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #11
"If your neighbor takes you out for dinner and from time to time, he shares some of his wine with you, does that mean I am financially in his debt? My neighbor is demanding I pay him 100 dollars for all the nice things he ever did for me. Can a person be a good deeds bank account - where you can get cash later for gifts given now? Your wisdom would be much appreciated in this. Thank you!
Timmy"
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February 4, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom
Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal/emotional nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we now have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
So, if you'd like to join in, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 200 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before Thursday 10th February.

"I have a bit of a problem, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 10 years, we even have a 2 year old together, but lately we have been arguing non stop. If I didn't have a child with him I'm sure I would break it off. I almost feel like all of this fighting is getting in the way of my parenting.What should I do? Caitlin."

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle
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January 28, 2011 - submitted by Maddy, United States of America
Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #10
"My friend and I have been worried about one of my other friends for quite a while now. We're afraid she cuts herself since we constantly see scars on her wrists and thighs and she's incredibly hard on herself. I've confronted her about it, but she denied it, yet I do not believe her. I know she said she doesn't, but I'm still concerned since she might just be saying that so I don't worry about her. What should I do? Maddy"
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January 28, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom
Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal/emotional nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we now have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
So, if you'd like to join in, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 200 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before Thursday 3rd February. What do we make of this moral dilemma?

"If your neighbor takes you out for dinner and from time to time, he shares some of his wine with you, does that mean I am financially in his debt? My neighbor is demanding I pay him 100 dollars for all the nice things he ever did for me. Can a person be a good deeds bank account - where you can get cash later for gifts given now? Your wisdom would be much appreciated in this. Thank you! Timmy".

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle
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January 21, 2011 - submitted by Katy, United Kingdom
Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #9
"I need help. My dad will marry again and I don't agree. I don't like the woman he is dating. It's because of her that my parents are divorced. How do I face this situation?
Thanks and hugs, Katy".
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January 21, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom
Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal/emotional nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we now have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
So, if you'd like to join in, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 200 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before Thursday 27th January. This week's question is particularly sensitive but I know your replies are going to be as amazing as ever.

"My friend and I have been worried about one of my other friends for quite a while now. We're afraid she cuts herself since we constantly see scars on her wrists and thighs and she's incredibly hard on herself. I've confronted her about it, but she denied it, yet I do not believe her. I know she said she doesn't, but I'm still concerned since she might just be saying that so I don't worry about her. What should I do? Maddy".

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle
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January 14, 2011 - submitted by Celina, Norway
Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #8
"I have a little trouble with my parents. Or it's not me having trouble with them, it's them having trouble with each other... They're always fighting and I don't know what to do. I have an older brother and a little brother, but my older brother doesn't live at home any more. So it's just me and my little brother, but I really don't know what I can do to help them and my little brother! I don't want my little brother to see them fight, but they're not very good at hiding it. The only way that makes them stop (sometimes) is that I go between them. But I can't be around them all the time either! This has really come to a problem for all of us, and they do see it, but they're not doing anything to get it better. Please give me some advices, I really need some!
Thank you. Celina, Norway".
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January 14, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom
Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal/emotional nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we thought we'd launch a new weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
So, if you'd like to join in, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 200 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before Thursday 20th January.

"I need help. My dad will marry again and I don't agree. I don't like the woman he is dating. It's because of her that my parents are divorced. How do I face this situation?
Thanks and hugs. Katy".

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The Oracle
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January 7, 2011 - submitted by Emma, United Kingdom
Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #7
"My best friend likes the boy that I'm with. I don't want my friend to feel bad!, I feel so guilty but I don't want to leave my boyfriend, and I don't know what to do so that my friend does not feel bad! She knows that I know that she likes my boyfriend and she's well aware of how I feel. HELP ME!!! Emma"
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January 7, 2011 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom
Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal/emotional nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we thought we'd launch a new weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
So, if you'd like to join in, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 200 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before Thursday 13th January.

Dear Oracle,
I have a little trouble with my parents. Or it's not me having trouble with them, it's them having trouble with each other.. They're always fighting and I don't know what to do. I have an older brother and a little brother, but my older brother doesn't live at home any more. So it's just me and my little brother, but I really don't know what I can do to help them and my little brother! I don't want my little brother to see them fight, but they're not very good at hiding it. The only way that makes them stop (sometimes) is that I go between them. But I can't be around them all the time either! This has really come to a problem for all of us, and they do see it, but they're not doing anything to get it better. Please give me some advices, I really need some!
Thank you. Celina, Norway

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle
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December 31, 2010 - submitted by Marta, United Kingdom
Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #6
"It's so hard to live without one of your parents. And I do not really know what to do. I live with my dad, but it's annoying. I can't understand all the things he does. I'm a teenager and I just can't live with dad. I need my mum. She's in England now, she and her family. What should I do? Marta".
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December 31, 2010 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom
Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal/emotional nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we thought we'd launch a new weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
So, if you'd like to join in, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 200 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before Thursday 6th January.
"My best friend likes the boy that I'm with. I don't want my friend to feel bad! I feel so guilty but I don't want to leave my boyfriend. I don't know what to do so that my friend does not feel bad! She knows that I know that she likes my boyfriend and she's well aware of how I feel. HELP ME! Emma".

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle
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December 24, 2010 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom
Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #5
"If you were to bring back one musical artist/band that has passed away, who would it be and why?
I have to say it'd be a treat to have John Lennon back. Kaley"
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December 24, 2010 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom
Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal/emotional nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we thought we'd launch a new weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
So, if you'd like to join in, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 200 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before Thursday 30th December.
"It's so hard to live without one of your parents. And I do not really know what to do. I live with my dad, but it's annoying. I can't understand all the things he does. I'm a teenager and I just can't live with dad. I need my mum. She's in England now, she and her family. What should I do? Marta".

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle
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December 17, 2010 - submitted by Elle, United Kingdom
Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #4
"How do you know you are doing what you're meant to be doing? Or how do you know that you are where you're supposed to be?"
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December 17, 2010 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom
Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
It's week four of our new weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
As it's Christmas next week I've chosen a frivolous question for our consideration.
So, if you'd like to join in, please email your response to the following question to theoracle@coldplay.com before 23rd December.

If you were to bring back one musical artist/band that has passed away, who would it be and why?
I have to say it'd be a treat to have John Lennon back. Kaley

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle
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December 10, 2010 - submitted by Tom, United Kingdom
Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #3
"I went out with this girl for 2 years and we were absolutely in love. Then we had to move to two different schools and she broke up with me because she thought it would be too hard. She got a new guy like 2 weeks later but I feel like he's just a rebound. Anyway, it has been 2 months since we broke up and we are meeting to talk things over. I just need some advice on what to say or whether I should just let her go because to be honest, I still love her more than anything in the world. Thank you very much for the help. Tom"
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December 10, 2010 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom
Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal/emotional nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we thought we'd launch a new weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
So, if you'd like to join in, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 200 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before Thursday 16th December.

How do you know you are doing what you're meant to be doing? Or how do you know that you are where you're supposed to be?

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle

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December 4, 2010 - submitted by Sel, United States of America
Q. Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION - #2
Is it okay to be different? Should I change?

I'm in high school and 17. Someone told me I was weird but cool. They told me this because I am curious about the universe and love to watch documentaries. I also am not like the rest of my class mates. I don't keep up with fashion I just wear what I feel like wearing. Have I painted an image to the rest of my classmates that I am weird? Is this the reason some students don't talk to me? Should I change who I am?
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November 19, 2010 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom
Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?

When I answer questions of a personal/emotional nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we thought we'd launch a new weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.

So, if you'd like to join in, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 200 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before Thursday 25th November.

Hi
I've been single for two years after a long term relationship ended. I was hurt badly and don't know if I can trust a man again. I don't think I'm ready to settle down but 3 weeks ago I met a guy I really like. He told me he isn't looking for a girlfriend, just fun. I thought it could be a perfect arrangement. We've tried to meet up 3 times since but he has cancelled because of work. I was really upset by the let down and realise I struggle with disappointment. It's hard work already but I really want to see him again. Shall I be patient or just cut my losses and run?
Bernie

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The Oracle
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