September 13, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom


As you may know, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday we open questions of a personal nature to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.

ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to before midnight Thursday 19th September.

I have come to a time in my life where I want to settle down. I have been messed around by the opposite sex for too long. I have been through a lot of life changing experiences in my life and this causes me to be very paranoid in relationships. I do not trust anyone especially a male. I have recently got into a relationship and I do love him dearly but my past always comes back to me. I can not find a way of putting it behind me and trusting him if you know what I mean.
I would like advice on how I can overcome all of this and not be so paranoid or else the relationship will not work. I do not want to push him away because of what I have suffered with men from the past. Please I would love your advice, it would be much appreciated. Kirsty, UK.

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