February 22, 2013 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

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I'm an ordinary 15 year old boy turning 16 this year. Everything in life seems to be going wrong and I don't know what to do about it- I feel like there is so much pressure on me in just everyday living. I have never had a girlfriend, or even kissed a girl, when almost everyone my age has. It mustn't seem like much, but its hard being the odd one out. I don't know who to call my friends anymore. Ever since starting high school, most of the people I used to call my 'best friends' have completely changed for the worst. They have turned into the people they swore they never would and I don't know who to be friends with. My family have changed too. My parents seem to be constantly fighting now. Over just about anything. It seems like they cannot go a day without fighting about something. Morning and night, it never stops. I feel like they want to split, but don't want to put me and my siblings through that. I also recently found out that my sister, the happiest care free sister on the planet (or so I though) self harms. This came as a huge shock to me. So much that it brought me to tears. I don't know if I should tell somebody or not. She is the sort of person who doesn't like talking about emotions. So I'm scared that if I tell somebody, it could make the situation a lot worse than it already is. I really don't want to make things any worse.
I need advice on how to cope with all these changes, please help. Jayden, Australia.

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle

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