August 3, 2012 - submitted by Skyler, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #82
What is the best advice you were ever told?
About life, love, relationships, anything and everything.


The Oracle replies:

When you get to my age you've heard almost every piece of advice going - or at least it feels like you have! Of course you also start handing it out like an old pro too.
The one that always sticks in my mind the most is "Keep your head out of the clouds and your feet on the ground". I guess they were warning me to remain true to myself if I ever got caught up in the madness and pitfalls of the music industry.
The best (work) advice I heard given and then passed it on myself to many musicians is: "Songwriting is like a muscle and it needs exercising every day".

There are so many nuggets of priceless advice but my favourite is the famous "Sing like no one's listening, love like you've never been hurt, dance like nobody's watching, and live like its heaven on earth." It's been adapted and added to over the years - feel free to make your own version.
Over to you.

Best advice ever given to me was: "Don't care too much what others say. Follow your heart." That seems a bit mawkish, but deep inside we often know what is the right thing for us before we have thought or talked about it already. Lucilla.

The best advice someone has ever told me is to :
1. Think on the bright side
2. Don't dwell on what could have been
3. Just be happy
4. Listen to Coldplay
Izzy.

The best advice anyone has ever told me was "no one can ever take your education away from you." Arian.

I've been given lots of advice, suggestions and pep talks in my life, but I often believe that the best quotes are the short, witty ones. One of my favorites is "Know your limitations and then, defy them." Maia, UK.

The best piece of advice I've ever been given is to accept yourself for who you are and to be proud of yourself. There's no point in changing yourself to fit in, because you were born to stand out and be different. Rebecca.

"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you." - Dale Carnegie.
This quote pushes me to go out of my comfort zone and find people who are like me in ways and different in others. It's a great way to branch out. Maddie, NC.

Life is like a game, don't let yourself slip behind while you search for thr instructions, make up your own rules, if you put your mind to it you can always come out on top. Elle.

"The world doesn’t owe you anything". Perhaps it is a little harsh on the surface. But, it's true.
You can grumble all you want about life being unfair. It is. Bad things happen to good people. Liars and cheaters get ahead while honest people fall behind. And maybe your girlfriend dumped you for that guy who used to bully you in high school.
You can't just sit back and wait for things to happen. You can't wait for a perfect job to fall into your lap. You can't wait for your relationship to fix itself. The world doesn't owe you that. It doesn't, in fact, owe you anything.
So work hard for you want. When things discourage you, remember that the world doesn't owe it to you to make your life easy. Pull up your socks (I hope you're wearing some), and work even harder for what you want. If you won't, no one else is going to do it for you. Catherine.

The best advice I have ever been told is to simply love everyone and everything. You can never truly know what one person has been though, and it's important to be compassionate to all people, despite their ethnicity, age, gender, who they know, their beliefs, etc. Just love, don't pass judgement or hate. Love, or your life will flash by. Like the inspiring Coldplay lyrics: What good is it to live / with nothing left to give / forget but not forgive /not loving all you see? Katie.

If you are in love with two people at once choose the second. If you were in love with the first, you wouldn't have fallen for the second.
- Johnny Depp. Meghan.

"Kill them with kindness honey" - my mom told me this, at the time referencing bullies but it really can apply to anything and everything.
"Sit up straight and smile, even when you're having a bad class" - my horseback riding trainer told me this, and really it also can apply to anything.
Also I always like to tell myself to keep everyone guessing. Just surprise everyone. Megan.


"Live life to its fullest" is a quote that seems to float around a lot. It gets used a lot, everybody hears it and knows how to do it, but not many people do it. It's such a simple quote on paper, but it can be so much more when reflected upon. It applies to everything and everyone.
It can mean something as little as planting yourself a little flower in the backyard, or something as big as flying to London for a year just because you feel like it. It's perfectly tailored to every individual, and they can use it in their own way. Life is short, so you need to make your time worth its while and enjoy every second, but life is also the longest thing you'll ever do, so there's enough time to make your life the best it can be. Live life to its fullest, because when your time is up, and you're taking that last breath, it'll flash before your eyes. Try every day to make that flash worth watching. – Connor Hayden, 15, USA.

Honestly the best things I were ever told were "If you never try you'll never know just what you're worth" from Fix You. Also the lyrics from Glass of Water really have a great message about living your life for the present and not in the past. A pivotal piece of advice came in a definition of forgiving yourself, that is "giving up the notion that anything you would have done could have made a difference". It's a great mind set to help with the process of moving on after an emotional setback. I wish you all the best in life, take care, Laurie.

The best advice I have ever received was given to me through different people, even through contributors to Team Oracle. That advice is this: Live life one day at a time. Stay positive. Be honest with yourself and with others around you. Never let go of something you believe in. Follow your heart, wherever it takes it you. Warm regards, Blake.

"If you're going through hell, keep going." - Winston Churchill. Sarah, Oshkosh, WI.

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