November 19, 2010 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom


When I answer questions of a personal/emotional nature, readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we thought we'd launch a new weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.

So, if you'd like to join in, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 200 words, to before Thursday 25th November.

I've been single for two years after a long term relationship ended. I was hurt badly and don't know if I can trust a man again. I don't think I'm ready to settle down but 3 weeks ago I met a guy I really like. He told me he isn't looking for a girlfriend, just fun. I thought it could be a perfect arrangement. We've tried to meet up 3 times since but he has cancelled because of work. I was really upset by the let down and realise I struggle with disappointment. It's hard work already but I really want to see him again. Shall I be patient or just cut my losses and run?

Look forward to seeing your replies.

The Oracle

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