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27 March 2012 / submitted by Leah, Trinidad and Tobago
Q.  Dear Oracle,

I bought tickets to see Coldplay on 24th July in Montreal with 4 other friends.
The Ticket we received says Section 205 "Obstructed view". The Bell Centre said that they won't know how obstructed the view will be because they don't know the stage setup....

We're flying in all the way from Trinidad & Tobago to see the show and I'm hoping that we didn't get stuck with poor viewing :((((

Can you help or provide any info re: stage plan for Bell Centre at Montreal?? Thanks!
The stage set-up is 360 degree so you'll be able to see wherever your seats are. Obstructed view usually suggests some part of the supports and/or beams so you will definitely need to check with the venue to find out whereabouts Section 205 places you in relation to the structure.


27 March 2012 / submitted by Julia, Brazil
Q.  Is the drawing of the butterfly from LeftRightLeftRightLeft original? If not, where does it come from?
Yes. If you've been lucky enough to attend one of the Viva shows and be even luckier to get yourself a confetti butterfly, you'll see that it is the same shape as the lrlrl logo.
In fact, taking luck one step further into the realms of luckiest, if you had a physical copy of the lrlrl CD, if you put your confetti butterfly atop the logo butterfly, they are exactly the same size as well as shape.



26 March 2012 / submitted by Kristin, United Kingdom
Q.  Hey Oracle, is it wrong to go to a concert alone?
I have been to loads of concerts on my own. If you have nobody to go with you at least you will be in a place where everyone is there for the same thing and will have a great time with like minded folk.


26 March 2012 / submitted by Tyler, United States of America
Q.  Hello Oracle!
Is the band's studio (The Beehive/Bakery) truly located in Northern London, particularly Camden Town area?
This past weekend I was in London for the first time and had a blast. Such an amazing city. I looked on the internet for pictures and locations of the studios, and I think that I found the right area.
Are you able to confirm that I was at the right place?
It's located in North London yes but not technically in Camden Town. From your description you were at the right place but the band wouldn't have been there though (they're not presently there either). Aw I hope you didn't spend too much time waiting when there are so many more fun things to do in London.


26 March 2012 / submitted by Gavin, United States of America
Q.  Oracle,

I have the opportunity to study abroad next spring and am so excited as I have never been out of the USA before. (except a one day trip a few miles into Canada) I'm an English major and don't know any other languages, so I've narrowed it down to Scotland, Ireland, or England. Edinburgh, St. Andrews, and Cork, Ireland are at the top of my list. Wherever I go I'll be able to travel on a few weekends and spring break, but it's still a tough decision!

Opinion? Advice?
Ooh what a tough choice! I love Scotland and Ireland but if you forced my hand to choose one of those places to go and study, I would definitely pick Edinburgh. I know someone who is currently at St.Andrews and he loves it but yup, I'd pick the thriving capital.


23 March 2012 / submitted by Mary, United States of America
Q.  TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #64
How can I help my husband get through mid life crisis? I want to help him so much but I can't seem to get it right.
Do u have any ideas?
Mary, USA.
It is often branded a cliche but this is a subject that I have witnessed at close range more than once. I have to say in my experience it's mostly been males I have seen it happen to in varying degrees.
I have seen 30 year old and 40 year old men give up on long-term relationships for younger women, I have seen men buying guitars and sports cars to try and regain lost youth. I have heard men say they have nothing good in their life despite a loving family. I have seen depression over finances, careers and even hair loss. I have seen women getting involved with much younger men and sadly one ended up in hospital. The point I am making is a mid-life crisis can manifest itself in different levels from mild to extreme - I don't know which level your husband is at.
It sounds as though he is possibly displaying negative mood swings.
All I can say without knowing more is to handle this with care. If you can remain as positive as possible because the problem can exacerbate quickly. Don't put pressure on him to let you in or on yourself to fix it. You can't force it so just make sure he knows you're there for him and try to stay as close to your normal as possible.
If there's things you can do together for fun, try to get involved and embrace part of the change. It doesn't have to be seen as a bad thing, just as a transition. I don't need to tell you how hard it can be to live with someone going through this but your reaction is as important as the crisis behaviour. It can be distressing for both parties. Just take care to observe radical changes in mood as it can easily turn into a dark depression and that's a different problem to tackle. As with grief (which can be a trigger sometimes) a mid life crisis requires understanding, support and a large amount of patience. Good luck, Mary.
Over to you...

Mary, just be there. Think about it, when we are in our 20s, we are busy trying to build careers, getting married, having children, and working on making ends meet, pretty much numb. In our 30s, the career is farther along, the children are older and we're still distracted with daily living, while settling into a routine. In our 40s/50s, the children are grown and don't need us as much, careers may feel stagnant, and we have fewer distractions. A feeling of "there is something more" creeps in as the distractions of life, get less and less. Sometimes, it's just a feeling of getting old, so use this opportunity to discover new things and break from the old routines. Start doing new activities with your husband, freshen the relationship up a bit. Go out on dates, exercise or walk together, it doesn't have to be complicated, just rediscover each other again; you both have changed over the years. Encourage him to get a hobby; I'm sure there is something he's always enjoyed or wanted to do. Try volunteering, join a community group or even a church. Spirituality helps us feel connected to something bigger than ourselves. Balance the time you both have individually and together, everyone needs space. This time of life is about exploring who you really are and finding where you fit into it. Don't hold onto the past, it will only cause frustration, but a new beginning, will bring new life to both of you. Dawn.

I will keep this short, and based simply on what I would do: be supporting. Many people go through this crisis, some easier than others, so it's hardly unusual. As long as your husband knows that you are there by his side, I'm sure everything will be fine. Marriage is a strong bond between two people - make sure to let him know that you're aware of that. Whenever I'm down, I find comfort in knowing that there's always someone there to help me get right back up again. I am sure he, as well as many others, feel the same way. So just... be there. That's, really, all you can do in the end. Best wishes, Medina.

I think that your husband needs important changes in his life.
New things, new experiences, new feelings.
To come back to life, to feel passion for something again, to feel alive.
And of course, you, his wife, are the key here to accompany him in this proccess.
Why don't you two take up a different activity from what you're used to?
A different language, some sports, Thai food... There must be so many things I can't name them all.
These things should bring sparks to his life again.
This is just an idea which I think would tremendously work.
Just check it: when people feel down, they get a new haircut, change the style of their clothes,
take up yoga, visit new places... the feeling is great.
Perhaps also at these activities he could make new friends, share points of view...
I'm sure there are people in the same situation.
If we stay together, we can work everything out.
The best of luck, Caro.


I recommend trying new things with him and being understanding. Be sensitive to his adventurous plans if he has any and try to make sure you are both communicating with each other. He might be rethinking decisions he's made in the past. That can be alright but if it leads to him being distant I think you should have a talk with him. Give him enough space to figure things out on his own, but let him know you're there for him if he needs you. Remind him of his accomplishments when he's being pessimistic and that he has people that care for him. I don't have much experience with this subject, but i hope this helps. Love, Darem.

You must ask yourself, is anyone ever truly ready to grow up. We tend to cling to the lives we're familiar with, and it can happen in multiple stages of life. Midlife crisis is the most obvious stage where this occurs, because it's hard to think that it's time to settle down, when you aren't finished with being young and independent. While I'm certainly nowhere near midlife crisis, I experienced a similar situation when transitioning from my senior year of high-school to college, I just wasn't ready. I encourage you to support him, and his ideas, unless they become too extreme, and that's all you need to do. Your support can go a long way, especially now, where he'll come to the realization that it's time to settle down.
Best wishes, Bradley H.


My Dad suffered from a mid life crisis and to be honest we all tried so hard but ended up walking on egg shells which made the home a horrid place to live. In the end we had a family meeting and said we were trying to understand but if he didn't talk to us, we couldn't properly. He was in denial which didn't help any of us. We eventually just carried on around him and if he needed us, we were there for him but there wasn't really very much we could do. Tim.

I once lived with a man who got really depressed about getting old. He felt a failure. He wasn't great at communicating his feelings. I tried to help but nothing I did really worked. I'd suggest ways to make him happier like retraining for a new job. I even said I would keep the home running if he wanted to go and travel. I just wanted him to be happy. Sometimes it seemed to make a difference and I thought we were finding a way through but the next day he would always revert back to the dark place. It was very hard. I hate to be so selfish but in the end I couldn't cope with it as I was supporting him but there was nobody supporting me. I feel myself sinking down and I wasn't prepared to go there with him. I gave an ultimatum as he hadn't taken any offers of help from me so either, get professional help for the depression or leave. He called a counsellor and made an appointment but he couldn't go through with it. He left. He soon after moved in with a woman half my age and got her pregnant. I don't regret my decision. I am sorry to bring it down but I wanted to warn you. I know relationships are two people working together, but I felt alone and like I was the only one working at it. It was a lot of pressure. I guess what I am saying is make sure you look after your needs while supporting your husband - if you choose to continue doing that. I admire your strength. Dee.

Thanks to all those who replied to this week's dilemma. Remember, Team Oracle is open to anyone so if you fancy joining in, click to read this week's question, and send us your answer.



23 March 2012 / submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom
Q.  WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we now have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 29th March.

I'm unsocial and I want to make more friends. I'm beginning to hate being a loner and I have no idea why I can't manage to have many companions. I love people and I care about them a lot too but yet I am a loner.
Thankyou.
Love,
Sababa, Bangladesh.


Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle
Please email your replies to theoracle@coldplay.com


22 March 2012 / submitted by Alicia, Mexico
Q.  I am afraid. I found a person that likes the same things that I like. She loves the same bands, movies, etc. that I. Everything is SO similar! Should I be concerned or upset? It's like I'm not unique. It's a little bit traumatic. She loves the same lyrics that I... It's inexplicable.
Don't worry Alicia, it's not inexplicable. We're all humans so by our nature we'll have a lot in common with many other people. I mean, Coldplay have sold millions of records so that's a thing that unites a certain set of people despite age, creed, race etc. If we then add favourite books, films, TV shows, comedians etc. then it would stand that if we all liked totally different things we wouldn't have the means to experience any of it. There wouldn't be the need for cinemas showing films or theatres with comedy or bands playing live gigs because everything would be too niche. Yes, we are all unique in our differences but we should celebrate our similarities with the people who share them. Or at the very least embrace those differences to experience new things - even if the new is from 1845.

*This is my favourite piece of classical music. Ever.



22 March 2012 / submitted by Martin, Australia
Q.  Greetings oh wise Oracle...

This question might have been asked already, but which Mylo Xyloto album artwork do the boys consider to be the 'main' or 'original' one?
Ooh that's an interesting question yet at the same time if we think about it... why would anyone who had an absolute give the option? I think the beauty of it is that they see that both work so well but suit different individual styles within the parameters. As with lyric interpretation, the band have left it up to you to decide which you prefer. That's also why I like the personalised MX artwork.


21 March 2012 / submitted by Jack, United Kingdom
Q.  Dear Oracle, I'm seeing the boys at the Emirates Stadium in London on the 4th of June (first time so I'm massively excited already!!) I've got GA tickets which I believe includes the first tier of stadium seating. In your experience, how early would I need to get to the venue to queue to get a decent choice of seats? Thanks :)
Ooh Jack, that's a big pressure question! I wouldn't like to say "get there for 9 a.m" but I do know for a fact that some of our wonderful fans will do because the crew & I have met a few of them of several occasions. I went to a show at Wembley Stadium last Summer and got there at around 5pm. It wasn't too difficult to get a good standing aspect but the only available GA seats were no where near the front.
That said, wherever you are in a stadium you're going to have a great view of the overall show and its effects.
In answer to your direct question though, I'd have to say "er, early"!




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