8 October 2013 / submitted by Peter , United Kingdom
Q.  I was just wandering if Coldplay will ever do a gig in Bath like at The Rec (home of Bath Rugby) like Westlife did or if not anywhere in the West Country.
Coldplay have performed in Bath but granted it was a long time ago. They played at Bath Pavilion on 24 June, 2002 as part of a mini tour to warm-up pre-Glastonbury. It was partly because A Rush Of Blood To The Head hadn't yet been released and this was a way of getting the new songs heard ahead of the festival as well as practicing them live in front of an audience.

7 October 2013 / submitted by Isobel, United States of America
Q.  I heard a song by the guys but I don't know what its name is! The lyrics go like this: "And in the end, we'll lie awake and dream of making our escape". I have read that its called The Escapist and I've also seen that its called Life in Technicolor iii, but I'm so confused about it. Thank you so much!
Love from Florida!
There is no Life in Technicolor iii. Those lyrics are from The Escapist - the hidden track at the end of Death & All His Friends which is the final song on the Viva La Vida album.

7 October 2013 / submitted by Kelby, United States of America
Q.  Dear Oracle,
Can You PLEASE tell me what the name of this song is. It is this song that has this symphony and chimes is it, and it is played in the movie Serendipity with John Cusack and Kate Beckinsale. PLEASE answer me.
I've not seen the film myself and it's not on my ones to watch list so hopefully this link will help you work out the answer to your question.

4 October 2013 / submitted by Alexandra, Australia
Ever since my father died, my life has been going pear-shaped. I hardly never smile anymore, my mother is always violent and aggressive. I always feel anxious and scared - like something bad is going to happen.
I don't know what to do anymore, Oracle. It just seems like everyday is the same to me.
What can I do to change all of this?
It's not surprising you expect something bad is going to happen because something bad did happen. That doesn't mean life will continue this way but I won't lie - bad things do happen and that's just part of life. I think you need to deal with the loss of your father. I touched on bereavement issues last week but sometimes things are expected to go back to normal when you feel as far from normal as seems possible. It may be that you haven't given yourself enough time to heal. Don't rush that process.
It's obvious you & your mum are going through a massive upheaval as well as grief so try to understand that your mum's actions are reactions to her loss. That said, if the violence is physical against you, that is not acceptable & it may be time to involve another family member - an aunt or grandparent. I'm afraid other than talking and offering support, you can't do much else for her but do try and pull together as a family. There will be times you all want to be alone and that's fine but as grief doesn't always bring people together - it can divide, you should try & speak to your mum or write her a letter to tell her how you're feeling.
You didn't mention when your dad died but it's quite normal to experience very negative feelings and moods for a very long time.
What I suggest is seeking out ways to deal with a) your grief and b) your anxieties. Whether you go to a counsellor, a group, a website or a book you need help and coping strategies could be the way forward for you.
You may not feel much like laughing or having fun but it's imperative that you go out and surround yourself with friends, doing things you love that bring joy. Please don't feel guilty about smiling when it comes. I'm sure your dad would want you to be happy. Though it may only come in small doses for a while, try and be a pleasure seeker whether it be in a book, music, a film, a hobby, art... You can remember your father in all of these things and talk about him (talk to him if it makes you feel better) to keep his memory alive. Take small steps each day to move away from your stuck place. Your mum is going through her own thing and one day it will become more manageable for you both but however long it takes, he will always be in your hearts and nobody can ever take that away from you. I wish you both peace.
Over to you.

First of all... sorry for your loss. It is hard to lose one you love and losing a parent is toughest of all. You don't say how long it's been since this happened. It is quite normal to experience a whole array of emotions after a death. Your feelings are normal, but your mother's aggression may be a cause for concern. You have taken a good first step in telling someone. Perhaps it is time to involve a counselor or a mental health practitioner to get much needed help. Anger after a death is a part of the grieving process and people grieve and mourn at their own pace. My concern is your safety both mentally and physically, this is making you anxious and you are already dealing with a loss. This is why it may be wise to consult someone who could talk to your Mom about her feelings and sort them out. I am sure once she deals with her emotions things will get better, this may take time. Be patient even though it's hard right now. Talk to her when she is calm and perhaps explain how you feel when she acts a certain way, it may help. I hope with time and some help you and your Mom can live a peaceful life together. Take care, Laurie.

It sounds like your life is really out of whack right now. If I may, I'd like to start out with my sincerest apologies. I suggest finding an activity that you enjoy, and that takes a lot of concentration and planning. A rigorous hobby. It will take your mind off the problems you face and give you something to look forward to. Amber.

Your question almost scares me: What YOU can do to change ALL of this. To change everything of such a complex situation is an unrealizable challenge for only one person.The loss of a family member always ruins your private world order. Sadness and feelings of helplessness can turn to aggressivity. There might be not a broken heart only, but also material or financial problems, so be patient with your mother.
Though some more information could help for a better piece of advice, only this: usually it takes a network to get out of this state soon. Are there relatives, friends to help you, a teacher or anybody you can talk to? Don’t hide at home, accept invitations, go out, together with your mother, but also each of you on your own. Probably your dad would not want to see you sad or frustrated all the time. We all know live goes on even though we have lost someone. You and your mother are allowed to smile and to have fun again, there’s no need for any bad conscience about that. Take time to keep the memory of your dad, but also live in the present and plan for the future. Slowly step by step things will change. If you change a feeling of being left to the feeling of being there for each other then both of you have done the best you can do. L.Q.

Try to forget this, I know that it isn’t easy, but you must try! And, your mom needs help too, talk to her and together you’ll overcome this; don’t think that you’re alone in this world, of course you have brilliant people around you, remember this, and your dad is taking care of you, where he is! (: With love, Thuane.

Please don't feel anxious and scared, just enjoy everything and things will get better. REMEMBER TO PRAY. I know what you feel, u just need something to enjoy. Just listen to Coldplay's songs!
Be a good person, just do something useful and I know your dad will proud!

Don't tackle this alone. You're isolated and this is a time when you should all be pulling together. Have a family meeting with as many people who were close to your dad and talk about your feelings, share you memories and let out some of the stuff that's being bottle up. That's why it's manifested itself in aggression and that's damaging. You are not alone nor should you be. You've lost your dad and your mum has lost her husband - she will be experiencing so much not just emotionally but her role in life has changed. Give her time but take time for you too. Alex.

Is there a teacher you can talk to? I think you need some intervention at home. Plus it sounds like therapy might be a good idea. Maybe you & your mum could go to for bereavement counselling together or separately. Reach out to your mum. I'm sure she will be there for you if you just talk to her. Don.

Thanks to all those who replied to this week’s question. Remember, Team Oracle is open to anyone so if you fancy replying, click to read this week's, and send us your answer.

4 October 2013 / submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

As you may know, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday we open questions of a personal nature to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.

ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to before midnight Thursday 10th October.

I'm a teenager, and for a very long time now, I have suspected that I've got OCD, obsessive compulsive disorder. I do a lot of things that I don't understand, have my own explanations for, and sometimes I do it by habit. When I do something differently or do a mistake, no matter how small it might be, it feels wrong in a way that sort of aches, and sometimes I get an anxiety attack. There are times when I feel really down, and on some occasions, it has caused me to shut down and go almost emotionally numb.
But my main issue is not really knowing. I've done a lot of research, but making a diagnose yourself only gets you so far. I'm also very worried that I'm not really sick, but I'm just telling myself that I am. I need to know. I can't possibly tell my parents because I know they can't handle it.
I've been doing this and even more things since I was a kid, so if they would have done something they would have done it ages ago.
I don't know what to do. How I feel I can handle. The music and animals surrounding me help me snap out of things, but what kills me is not knowing.
Can you please help me?
Eli, Sweden.

Look forward to seeing your replies.

The Oracle.
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3 October 2013 / submitted by Lou F, United Kingdom
Q.  Hi Oracle, I came across a wiki page article today that talked about Coldplay working with Radiohead during the late 90s before OK Computer. I don't believe it's real. But it's rather amusing. Just wanted to clarify, this didn't really happen, did it?
There is no truth in that wiki article at all. I do have an early days Radiohead tale to regale. Phil Harvey - who went to University in Oxford - took a Coldplay demo to a bakery. Why did he do that? I hear you ask.
The bakery was owned by a relation of a Radiohead band member and Phil asked them to pass it along. Whether it was ever listened to remains a mystery.
I can hear you ask again - no, this has nothing to do with Coldplay's studio being called The Bakery.

3 October 2013 / submitted by Nicklaus, United States of America
Q.  Dear Oracle,

Being a sort of journalist on the website for the best band in the world, what advice would you give to creative writers and aspiring novelists?
Many moons ago I wanted to be a journalist so feel blessed to have landed in this arena though I am far from being a pro journalist.
My advice is two-fold. Do learn the craft as best you can and do write every single day. Take it as seriously as any job. Writing is a very competitive world and it could take your first or hundredth attempt before you get published - if ever. Don't give up.
Keep a diary, write a blog, whatever but just don't stop writing.

3 October 2013 / submitted by Frisby, United States of America
Q.  Do you have a favorite fictional character?
I have several but if I had to choose one, I'd have to say Rocky Balboa.

2 October 2013 / submitted by Abigail, twitter
Q.  @jcwg
Do u have any remedies for insomnia u can share? #whenufeelsotiredbutujustcantsleep
When I've suffered with insomnia I have employed various techniques to help.
The first one I found really important: don't stress about it.
I discovered that if I just lay still and rested without getting worked up over not sleeping, I wouldn't feel as drained the following day.
That meant my body was rested so then I tackled the mind. Meditation was a great aid. That's what eventually worked for me.
Also consider switching off all stimulating media devices well in advance of bedtime, no alcohol or caffeine, a warm bath, lavender scent on the pillow, low lighting in bedroom and perhaps even herbal remedies.
Two other things I did were to shift the getting ready for bed routine (teeth brushing etc.) forward rather than immediately before bed which would wake me up. I also used to listen to relaxation music whilst lying on the floor with my legs vertically up against the wall. I know it sounds weird, but it just may work.

2 October 2013 / submitted by Ruperto, twitter
Q.  @ElChurroDeChris
Hey Oracle, I was wondering were I could get LeftRightLeftRightLeft, I really want it :(
I'm afraid that lrlrl is no longer available for download.

To save you spamming me, I've answered a couple more:
Yes, I've cried to Fix You.
No, I won't marry you - but thank you.
I'd say it's a close between Anchorman & myself who uses the Internet more but not sure either of us are "addicted". We love it though and would be lost without it.