19 February 2013 / submitted by Hannah, United States of America
Q.  Hi Oracle.
In the beginning of this video Chris mentions Margaret, his girlfriend at that time. I was wondering was she the girl in The Scientist video?
P.S. Why wasn't Chris wearing any shoes at that gig?
That's how rumours start, Hannah. Margaret (Fiedler) was not his girlfriend; she was a member of the band Laika, watching from side of stage.
And double no, Elaine Cassidy is playing the part in The Scientist video.
I imagine Chris wasn't wearing shoes for the same reason Will was wearing shorts; it was blooming hot!

18 February 2013 / submitted by Jericho, United States of America
Q.  Hello
Do you know what the model is for Chris Martin's Martin guitar?
No, but luckily I know a man who does. Thanks to the knowledgeable Hoppy (Chris' guitar tech for those who don't know) for this very comprehensive answer.
"On the MX tour he was playing Martin D-15 M's (FYI: D= dreadnought body shape/ number = style, the higher the number the more fancy appointments, binding, inlays etc/ M= mahogany). He used six or seven in a show, set up for different songs/tunings and all painted different)."

He also went on to tell me:
"His favorite is a 1985 (I think) made D-28 which doesn't tour. I believe he originally rented this from John Henry's Hire dept. a long time ago and subsequently bought it from them.

Amongst the others, he has a vintage pre-war D-28. Also D-42, or 45 K (K=Koa wood) from the 70's (I think!)
Also he may have a OO-15CE (OO= body size, small/ C= cutaway/ E=electric) somewhere. He used these on the Rush of Blood tour.

He has recently been recording with 2 new HD-28's (H= herringbone, which is a style of binding they previously used on pre-war made D-28's) that have been modified, and a couple of specially made 12 string versions of D-15 M's."

He knows his stuff does our Hoppy! Wow, I hope you guitar fans out there found that as fascinating as I did.

18 February 2013 / submitted by Sebastian, Mexico
Q.  Ok, so music related question, I was listen to The Libertines, precisely Last Post On The Bugle and I noticed that there's a verse that goes:
Inside I felt
So, so alone
Locked in a room
Waiting til kingdom come
Although I felt elated
I felt like I was scum.

So I thought that maybe Coldplay were inspired by this to make their song Til Kingdom Comes.
So did they took inspiration from The Libertines?
No, "until kingdom come" is a well known phrase from a prayer and basically it means until the end of the world / forever.

15 February 2013 / submitted by Mindy, Australia
My friendship group is tearing apart. A complete split. Right through the middle. I don't know how to handle this at all. What did you do when you lost really good friends? Did you try and split your time, did you let some of them go? I don't want to lose them.
I feel for you because I know how hard that is. I don't know how old you are and even though this happened a lot more in my school years, it doesn't get any easier no matter how old you are so I shall fast forward to now, to my older wiser advice...
I've seen it happen, I've had it happen to me and I have also instigated it on several occasions - one quite recently.
Sometimes you outgrow people, or they you and that's just how life goes.
You may feel stuck in the middle but it's not your fault so try and fit in whenever and wherever. If your friends can't be mature about being in the same room as each other, making plans will be difficult but that's not your problem. Of course it's going to impact on you as the mutual friend. I suggest you could alternate who you see and when - or simply do what YOU want to do.

I have had to adapt to changes in friendships and sadly that has sometimes meant that I have been left out but it makes you truly appreciate real friendships and differentiate between acquaintances. It also makes you value people. To me the most important thing about friends is a mutual love, trust and respect. You don't need to stay friends just because of a long shared history etc. Just like a relationship it's about compromise and without that it can feel very one sided so do look at what you put in and what you get back. If that's not balanced perhaps you are better off without that particular friend/group.

Now for you, things like birthdays may seem like an impossibility but just remember it's their decision not to be friends so let them decide what they want to do.
What I will say is this: it's sometimes for the best that friends part so do bear in mind that no matter how much you may want them all to get along, that may not be what either party or both parties want so don't try to fix it. If it's meant to be, let them sort it out.
Try to remain diplomatic by not taking sides or getting dragged into slanging matches but there's no reason at all you should lose any of your friends.
Over to you.

There's no straight forward answer to dealing with a rift in your friendship group. A few years ago I went through the exact same thing, it was a horrible time because this group were like my safe haven so when it split I didn't really know who to go with. I had spent a lot of time floating about between friendship groups and it made me kind of anxious that I would end up with no friends. I didn't really understand what the grievance was, I was pretty much neutral in that sense.
I'm a creature of habit so I stuck to one of my closest friends throughout all the conflict. I think that may be because I never really trusted the other members of the subgroup I was in. I gradually gravitated towards the people who had left the group and found out that I felt so much more comfortable around them.
If you are on neutral territory then don't let anyone tell you who to be friends with because if you have no grievance with them and if you are still very good friends with them then it would be a shame to let that go. Make sure you find out all the facts because it doesn't help to be clueless like I was, you don't want to be hurt by someone you thought was your friend. Don't feel like you owe certain people your friendship, it should't be something you have to think about, you just do it. If you end up having to justify to yourself why you are friends with certain people then maybe its a sign you should break free of them. Finally in the words of our good old band, Don't Panic. Don't feel abandoned because your real friends will stick by you, just be yourself and be as good a friend as possible to everyone, bearing in mind that you can't please everyone. Does that make sense? I really hope this helps.
All the best, Naomi.

I think it is sometimes best to just let people go. My personal philosophy is "You don't need anyone that doesn't need you." It's the hardest thing in the world to let someone go. I've had to let my ex-boyfriend and best friend go, one of the hardest times of my life. But he didn't need me, so why would I waste my time? The sooner I realized that, I was prepared to move on and be a stronger person. Alexa.

A friendship group, whatever the time you have been friends for, is really hard to keep assembled, especially with the work, school or university, conditions each one has, his chance and his destiny and it really make us sad.
But dear Mindy, the material absence cannot split your friendship. There is a spiritual presence in every single instant YOU live and thanks to God there are many ways to keep contact with THEM. I agree with you it can't replace your first assemblance but it really works.
Be sure dear Mindy that we all are sad about being so far from our friends and families, but get and keep hope and prospect that there are surely days you will spend with them and tell them that you have never forgotten them. The important is that YOU will never delete THEM from YOUR close friends list, don't ever let them go. Take care of yourself Mindy. Hasnaa.

When my friends fight, I feel horrible, like you probably feel. What I've tried to do is spend time when them each separately, and if you are really good friends with them (like I was), you can talk to them about why they are so upset or mad. When you begin to piece this together, you might be able to find out how to repair their friendships, equaling happiness for you!
Much love, Claire.

I went through something similar last year. For a while I thought I'd lost some of my closest friends, and naturally didn't take it well. Over time though, I reflected on everything that happened and realized that some of the people I considered friends weren't very good ones. It helped me value quality over quantity. It's really just about who's actually acting like a friend. They'll want to remain friends just as much you do. You cant worry about it too much in the end as you cant really force anyone to want to be your friend. Just make sure they know you care about your friendship with them. You didn't say what the reason for splitting is, but hopefully this helps. Wish you the best. Love, Darem.

Being caught in the middle is horrible! In my own life there was an instance where splitting my time between two groups of friends worked because both groups understood I wanted to keep in touch with all of them. But having said that, even though they were understanding some were still hurt that I didn’t take ‘sides’, and it took some time before friendships with a couple of them were back to the level/place they’d once been. In another instance, after trying really hard to fix everything between everybody I had to choose a ‘side’ (although, there were times when things became so nasty I felt like walking away and finding a whole new set of friends!) Try not to be drawn into gossiping or bitching (which can be hard - my friends expected me to ‘support’ them via gossiping etc & became upset with me when I didn’t) Being in the school environment and in close contact with both groups might make things difficult for a while, and, it is incredibly hard, messy, & heartbreaking to lose friends, but Mindy, you can’t control what others think or do, so as clich as this sounds, my advice is to remain true to you (your values/heart/ etc) and hopefully your friends will realise and appreciate you and your friendship no matter what else is happening between them all! All the best Mindy! Cali.

I know your situation, that sometimes can happen to people who are more tolerant than the others in their surroundings. When they unfortunately have friends who need to position in cliques, there is a risk that they are considered for being strange if they don’t want to join to only one side. I don’t know details, but for me it seems you have a better survey of the situation than your friends do have.
Don’t let your attitude ruin by those split sections and be yourself. It’s hard to feel left out somehow, you can try to be friend with both sides, but you can’t split yourself, a day has 24 hours, not more. If you can stand for a while the contact to both - sooner or later one will follow meeting “the others” too, and maybe it will be put right again step by step. If there’s no reconciliation then go your own ways, where you will find new friends. You won’t find any during mourning a conflicted crowd. Let them see you are strong enough to go on without them, then perhaps they want to follow again one day, and if they don't want to then let them go wherever they want.Best wishes. L.Q.

Thanks to all those who replied to this week’s question. Remember, Team Oracle is open to anyone so if you fancy replying, click to read this week's, and send us your answer.

15 February 2013 / submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom
When I answer questions of a personal nature, readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to before midnight Thursday 21st February.

Lately I've realized that my best friend hasn't really been the same. After a breakup with her boyfriend a few months ago, her behavior has changed. She used to always be in a cheerful mood but now she doesn't seem to care about anyone or anything. She almost seems like she's angry most of the time when I'm around her. Another thing is that she's almost completely stopped eating. I rarely see her eat anything anymore and she is skinny enough as it is. Today she told me that she had lost nearly fifteen pounds in just a few months, making her weight drop almost to the double digits. It's been scaring the living hell out of me. I want to do something but I don't know what and I'm worried about how she would react if I told her that I thought she hadn't been herself for these past few months. I'm just very upset and worried about her right now and I don't know what to do. Can you please help me? Christine. USA.

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle
Please email your replies to

14 February 2013 / submitted by Pau, Argentina
Q.  Hi Wise Oracle!
A few days ago I was watching the music video:"The Nappies". It's very funny.
But I have a problem: I could recognize almost everyone in that video except from the one with the red wig. It seems to be a woman, but I am not totally sure.
Please Oracle, Can you tell me who is this?
Thanks in advanced.
I actually knew I had answered this already but I nearly fell off my chair when I discovered (using the search option on this site to search "nappies") that it was way back on August 13, 2009! Blimey, where does time go?
Dan Green won't thank you for thinking he's a woman, but it is Dan - the band's sound engineer.

14 February 2013 / submitted by Sam, United States of America
Q.  Greetings from Michigan!
I was wondering... do the boys ever find embarrassing photos (and such) of themselves on the internet and don't like it? Just like dorky photos where they're making weird faces (not anything more!)
I think we all have photos of ourselves we cringe at.
I think you just have to laugh at old photos no matter how embarrassing they may feel now. There is a great example of a "funny" retrospective on this site. In one of the timeline videos from 1999 - Click the March TV icon - there is a picture and footage of Chris' hair. The photo has the caption "Hmm, nice hair" and while the band are looking back at it, they have a laugh over the comment. It shows a gig with the same big hair from that time that is rather similar to one of the Hair Bear Bunch!

14 February 2013 / submitted by Danny, United Kingdom
Q.  Hello Mr Oracle Sir, I've recently taken up the ukulele. Great little instrument. Do any of the band play them?
I bet Will can; he can play anything!

13 February 2013 / submitted by Ana Karen, Mexico
Q.  Is it true that Coldplay is going to give two free concerts here in Mexico due to the Non Violence Foundation? I really want this to be real but I have my doubts, so... I wanted to ask you, dear Oracle.
No. There is absolutely no truth to the "news" that Coldplay are performing at La Fundacion No Violence.
I'm not sure how the rumours started but since a lot of you are asking, I wanted to clear it up.

13 February 2013 / submitted by Amora, United States of America
Q.  Have anything planned for ya'lls 20th anniversary? IT HAS TO BE HUGE :D
That's 5 years away! Nothing planned just now.