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17 December 2014 / submitted by Adam, United Kingdom
Q.  Hi, just wondering the Ink single isn't in your Recordings section, it was an official single, right?
I'm only answering this because it is a newly received question and Ink IS in the Recordings section. You may need to clear cache / cookies. Hopefully it will then show up.


17 December 2014 / submitted by Isaiah, United States of America
Q.  Oracle,
I can't find Miracles or the lyrics in the Recordings section of the website. I have the same problem with Wish I Was Here. Are they not official releases by the band, or do you just not put soundtrack songs on the recordings section? I'm confused because Atlas is there and Miracles isn't.
Miracles is coming to Recordings but as Wish I was Here isn't a release, it isn't.


17 December 2014 / submitted by Emma , United Kingdom
Q.  Hi Oracle!
I just moved school and hardly EVER get to see my best friend from my old school. How could I get our mum's to make a plan??
The same happened to me when I was at school and this was a long time before the Internet so we resorted to writing letters for a few years. We did manage to get together a couple of times but alas, a less tech world scuppered the friendship.
Take advantage of video calls and social media. Maybe you should both start a savings pot specifically for meeting up again. I reckon if you and your friend show your mums you're determined to remain mates despite the move, they will help to arrange something.



16 December 2014 / submitted by Chris, United States of America
Q.  Is this movie actually happening? As a Coldplay/Foo Fighters fan, I would absolutely love it!!
Not so much "happnening" as "happened"! This is very old news - going back as far as 2002.
I've answered questions about it before in 2009, 2012 & 2013.



16 December 2014 / submitted by Jinafer, United States of America
Q.  Hey Oracle and to the grand Coldplayer's in the world.
My question:
Chris recently displayed a printed paper of a lady on his piano at Coldplay's recent BBC concert. Can you tell us who the lady is?
Thank you for your time.
Happy Holidays.
Sincerely,
Jin
It's a memorial booklet for a lady named Zoe - I'm afraid I don't know who Zoe is.


16 December 2014 / submitted by Dino, Switzerland
Q.  Dear Oracle,
what does it mean that Simon Pegg is godfather to Chris's daughter? I mean, is it like godfather in baptism (sacrament) or something else? Thanks, stay strong and cool, cheers and merry Christmas! D.
Yes, it's exactly that - like in Baptism. Traditionally a godparent (you have a godmother and godmother) agrees to be the guardian of the child in the event of the parent's death. Non-religious people can also appoint someone in a similar role. It's usually someone close to the parent & child in a position of valued friendship & trust who holds shared values.
It's definitely not like The Godfather.



15 December 2014 / submitted by Sylvie, Czech Republic
Q.  Just back from the movies and I was very surprised to hear the Midnight track on the trailer of Exodus. I knew about Miracles, but was Midnight initially planned to be on that soundtrack? Any other contribution to future productions?
A song being used in a trailer is very different from an original song being written for a film as is the case with Miracles and was with Atlas & Wish I Was Here.
Those are the only tracks written specifically for film soundtracks.



15 December 2014 / submitted by David, Netherlands
Q.  Hey Oracle!
There are a lot of concerts that I want to go to, but I can't find anyone to go with, because most of my friends don't like the artist or don't have the money. Should I go alone? I don't think it'll be the same fun as going with friends. Have you ever been to a concert on your own?
Many, many times! The most recent being on 30th November. If it was a choice of not going or going alone, I would always choose to go alone.
Once when I was travelling back from a gig I had been to alone, I met someone on the train who had been to the same one and we got talking. 25 years later, we're still friends and have been to loads of other concerts together!



12 December 2014 / submitted by Kris, India
Q.  TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #196
My life has been in a tailspin for a couple years now. My dad passed away in 2012 at an early age, after an 8 month battle with cancer. I was only 15 at the time, and seeing him trying to fight the disease was more that I could bear. I hid my depression though, since I had to be strong for him and my mom. Losing the most important person in your life can be hard. It has been two years and I still cry myself to sleep, missing him. I have not been able to open up to anyone and still keep my emotions hidden under a veil of humour. Is there any way I will be able to share my feelings with anyone again? I feel trapped.
It's sad how many times I hear young people say things such as, "I had to be strong for...". You actually didn't have to be strong for your Mum & Dad - or anyone - but it's so admirable that you tried to be. Sadly, as everyone else was too overcome with their own sadness, they probably didn't notice what you were trying to do and because of that, it feels like your feelings and needs were overlooked.
I don't think any good comes from hiding feelings. Bottling them up doesn't make them go away and you can end up with more pain to deal with in the long run.
I think it's time to open up (as you have here). Don't be scared to let people know how you really feel.
If you feel safe, find a friend to confide in or a sibling / family member. I personally think you should start with your Mum though. You both lost the same man that you both love. Maybe she just thinks you're ok or don't want to talk about it. Maybe she doesn't know what to say either.
Your grief shared will help. Talking about it / him, will help. Opening up will help. The first step may be scary, but once done, it's done.
You can't set yourself free from your trap until you open it.
Bereavement is a hard process but you're not alone. It could be your Mum needs to open up too - you could help each other if you start to talk about it. If it's too difficult, investigate talking therapies. You could always ask a doctor if you can be referred to a therapist / counsellor.
Help & support is there for you but it looks like you're going to have to ask for it. You've been strong for others for long enough, now it's time to focus on you. I wish you peace.
Over to you.

Yes, you can! Try talking to a close friend or relative about it. It'll make you feel better. I too, had two members of my family leave from cancer. Trust me, this will make you feel better about everything. Nathan B.

Of course there is. Sharing your feelings with someone is an act that requires courage and trust in the person you are sharing them with. These two things are something that you need to keep very near and dear to your heart. Losing someone you're close to is one of the most painful things we can go through, and you need to take as much time as you can to let yourself recover from it. You will find someone you can pour your heart into and share these painful memories with fragile thoughts with, and it might not come so clearly to you, but keep your eyes open and you will find so many people who will catch you in these dark times.
I wish you all the best.
Bradley H.

I'm sorry for your loss. I know what it feels like to lose the most important person in life, I hope my words helps you I believe there's a reason behind everything that happens, especially concerning loved ones. We should make out the best we can of any situation and the way is through LOVE. I suggest you don't focus on your dad's past suffering, on his death, or on your pain. Rather focus on how much your dad loved you, how much he would love to watch you pursue your dreams and never doubt yourself, how proud he would be of you for being so brave. Remember all the things he teached you. Focus on how much you love your dad and how you will make him proud, wherever he is. Look inside your heart and feel all this love for him. It's still there... and so is the love your dad feels for you. Love is eternal, it never dies. Your dad is always with you, don't doubt that. Live your life the happiest you can be. That's the best gift you could give yourself and your dad :) It's ok to cry sometimes... it will always be hard to not be with the most important person. But life has still so much to offer and you're still young. Let your loss become your greatest strength. Be true to yourself, always, and inspire others to be as well. Good luck. Believe in yourself. Be the son of your dad!
Congratulations for the big step of sharing your story. Best regards from Carina.


First of all, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, losing a close relative is so hard but more so when you're so young - I can't even imagine what you must have gone through. It may be easier to talk to someone who doesn't know you, someone who can remain impartial and just listen. Sometimes just having someone to listen and not judge, not advise, but just let you talk from the heart is the best medicine.
Is there any kind of counsellor available to you? Specialist bereavement counsellors can help you come to terms with what has happened. The pain will always be there, will always be raw, but with the help of a counsellor you can learn to deal with it over time, recognise what you're going through and get your life back on an even keel.
Be kind to yourself and good luck. Ruth, UK.

I suggest you to read the posts about coping with death of a parent that we wrote about 4 Fridays ago. Now it sounds like you ask about action and changing; that's good, seems like you've decided to go on after years of griefing. Don't blame yourself for that because that's what your father wants,I'm sure. He would also like to open to your mother; tell your pain,cry, don't act like her husband or father of a family, be the son-young,vulnerable,weak. Talk to teacher, therapist or priest. Be with friends, volunteer with homeless people or orphan kids. Their pain will heal your pain. Choose some sport and practice often-your body will be like a medicine to your soul. I suggest you to read any book of great life teacher and writer from India, Anthony de Mello. I know you can do it, there's so much waiting for you, be strong and believe! "Life is for living!" With love, Kamili from Croatia.

You have come to a critical point in your life; you are in the shadow of adversity. Now adversity is part of life it hurts, I know. But to overcome it, you need to adapt. Find someone you love and trust dearly and try to talk to them. Or if you're not ready for that, try writing how you feel down through music, poetry or just a story. And you might feel like you can't but you can, you just have to get out of your comfort zone and anyone who believes in you will feel empathy with you and help you feel better and support you. And write down your memories of him, cherish his memory and think about how much he loved you. He wants you to be happy even in tragedy. And when you express yourself to another person or even in writing, you'll find the dark storm clouds clearing and the clarity will be more beautiful than you remember. Remember; everything's not lost. Good luck and remember; people love you and want to make you feel better. Madi.

I'm really sorry for your loss Kris, no one should have to go through something like that at such an early age. I'm going to be blunt here, I think you should seek professional help. I'm not sure how these things work in India, but go to your doctor and tell him you want to see a psychologist. I know a lot of people think that in order to seek professional help you have to be completely insane and suicidal, but thats just not true. Psychologist are there for everyone who is experiencing difficulties in life, like you are right now. Talking to someone who doesn't know the first think about you can really help you feel better and they are trained to support and help you. With a little help and time, I'm sure you'll be able to open up to others again. Stay strong. Amanda.

I would say that if you can write about what you're feeling (even if you're doing it to the Oracle) is a sign that you do need and can open to others. There is no magic trick to solve your problems and you will probably need a lot of time to overcome your pain, but seriously Kris, our lives can be amazing and it really depends on us what we do with it. Live YOUR life to the fullest, sing, dance (preferably to Coldplay's sound), smile, laugh, be true, trust, get hurt, make a fool out of yourself and dedicate yourself to others everyday, one day at the time... trust me is a great way to live and things will get better!
Kiss, Carine, Portugal.

I am not sure if anything I say can ease your pain. But if we don't try, we'll never know. I lost my mom 11 years back and the feeling of loss has never left me even after all these years. Time may heal but memories never die. What helps is having a chosen few people to talk to.
I have always been close to my sister. That night we talked at length and cried together; we even laughed recalling some of mom's funny moments. It was healing in some way.
Over the years I have become more silent and reserved. But I have also learned that losing someone close makes you realise that people matter in life: the ones we have lost and the ones we still have.
We still talk about mom, how she liked to do certain things or the way she cooked a certain dish. There are years of illness and all other details. But restricting our memories to only those details, limit their whole existence to just pain. She was more than that.
You need to communicate your grief; whether you write it down in a notepad or in a blog or share it with the few close friends and family you have, especially your mom. She needs to truly know how you are doing and you need to understand how she is coping.
We all need our space but remember, isolating ourselves in grief only makes us lonely and depressed.
Regards, Rex, India.


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12 December 2014 / submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom
Q.  WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?

As you may know, we have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday we open questions of a personal nature to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply. At this time of the year, we usually have a more general question. I decided that perhaps we could use the space to give thanks to someone or for something.
There are two deadlines as I will split the answers over two weeks.

ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 18 & 25 December.

As the end of 2014 draws to a close, who would you like to thank or what would you give thanks for over the past year? Only one per person, please.

Look forward to reading your replies.

The Oracle.
Please email your replies with TEAM ORACLE in the subject line to theoracle@coldplay.com
Including your twitter address may result in a follow back.




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